- Romantic nostalgia refers to nostalgia for experiences shared with your partner.
- Research shows that romantic nostalgia is associated with increased relationship closeness, commitment, satisfaction, and passionate love.
- Romantic nostalgia can be considered a resource for healthy relationship functioning and overcoming relationship challenges.
A recent investigation by Evans et al. suggests that romantic nostalgia can be “a resource for healthy relationships,” something that couples can turn to when they experience disconnection or reduced relationship satisfaction.
The paper was published in the June issue of Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. But first, what is nostalgia?
Do you ever reminisce about your childhood or the way society used to be? In other words, do you ever feel nostalgic?
Nostalgia refers to a longing for the good ol’ days—for a time (e.g., college years) or place (e.g., grandma’s house) from the past that is associated with mostly positive experiences.
In the past, nostalgia was often viewed negatively, as homesickness, and even as a mental health condition or neurological illness. Namely, it has, in the past, been called a “cerebral disease,” an “immigrant psychosis,” and a “mentally repressive compulsive disorder.”
Nowadays, however, nostalgia is viewed in a more positive light. Why? Perhaps because accumulating research suggests nostalgia is associated with positive outcomes, such as a sense of meaning in life, increased feelings of belonging and connectedness, and improved self-esteem and well-being.
One type of nostalgia is romantic nostalgia, which focuses on a person’s past experiences shared with their current partner, whether the two are dating, married, or in another intimate partner relationship.
Let us now review the findings of Evans et al., on the benefits of romantic reminiscences.
The association between romantic nostalgia and healthy relationship functioning
Sample: 245 MTurk workers (127 men); 76 percent White; average age of 32 years old; all currently in a romantic relationship (average duration of seven years).
Romantic nostalgia: An adapted version of the 7-item Southampton Nostalgia Scale.
Relationship closeness: The 11-item Unidimensional Relationship Closeness Scale.
Relationship satisfaction: The Satisfaction subscale of the Investment Model Scale.
Relationship commitment: The Commitment facet of the Investment Model Scale.
Couples who “were more romantically nostalgic reported greater closeness, satisfaction, and commitment.”
Sample: 134 college students (36 men) from an American university; 92 percent Hispanic/Latinx; average age of 20 years old.
Romantic Nostalgia Induction: To induce nostalgia, researchers used a modified version of the Event Reflection Task. Participants were instructed to reflect on either an ordinary or a nostalgic experience they had with their romantic partner, and then to write about it.
After a manipulation check, participants completed the same closeness, satisfaction, and commitment scales as in the previous investigation.
Individuals in the “romantic nostalgia condition felt somewhat closer (although this difference was not statistically significant), reported greater relationship satisfaction, and felt more committed to their partners than those in the control condition.”
Sample: 151 students (27 men) from an American university; 93 percent Hispanic/Latinx; average age of 21 years old; all in a romantic relationship (average duration of two and a half years).
Depending on the condition assigned, participants were asked to think of a song they generally enjoyed or a song that evoked romantic nostalgia. They then listened to the song in the lab.
After a manipulation check, researchers assessed closeness, satisfaction, and commitment, as described earlier.
In addition, compassionate love was assessed using the Compassionate Love Scale, whereas passionate love was evaluated with a shortened version of the Passionate Love Scale.
Last, relationship optimism and romantic connectedness were evaluated using measures adapted from previous studies.
Individuals in the romantic nostalgia group, versus the control group, “reported higher levels of romantic connectedness, relationship optimism, closeness, satisfaction, compassionate love, and passionate love.” They “also reported higher commitment,” but “this difference was not statistically significant.”
Sample: 108 students (22 men) from an American university; 91 percent Hispanic/Latinx; average age of 20 years old; all in a romantic relationship (average duration of two and half years).
Participants were instructed to complete 14 daily surveys. Each construct was measured with just one item, as described below.
Romantic nostalgia: “Today, I thought back to a special time with my romantic partner.”
Romantic connectedness: “Today, I felt connected to my romantic partner.”
Relationship optimism: “Today, I felt optimistic about my romantic relationship.”
Desire to leave one’s romantic partner: “Today, I considered leaving my romantic partner.”
Time spent together: “Today, I spent time with my romantic partner.”
On those days that “participants felt more romantically nostalgic, they also felt more connected to their romantic partner, more optimistic about their relationship, and less inclined to leave their romantic partner.”
In summary, the results showed:
- Romantic nostalgia has a positive association with perceived closeness, commitment, and satisfaction.
- Experimentally induced romantic nostalgia increases relationship satisfaction, intimacy, commitment, relationship optimism, perceptions of romantic connectedness, passionate love, and compassionate love.
- Daily romantic nostalgia can predict relationship benefits, including less intention to break up, stronger relationship optimism, and increased romantic connectedness.
The results suggest that it may be beneficial to reflect on nostalgic experiences you have had with your romantic partner.
Reminiscing about romantic or sexual experiences may be beneficial in a variety of ways:
- Enhancing empathy and thus increasing supportive behaviors.
- Mitigating threats to the relationship and thus helping you feel connected even when physically apart.
- Increasing relationship satisfaction when the relationship has lost its spark or is facing challenges.
In short, romantic nostalgia can be an important resource for healthy relationship functioning.
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