Your Emotional Meter

Ilene Strauss Cohen Ph.D.

The Holidays Aren’t Joyous for Everyone

Take care of yourself. Protect yourself. Be aware of things that trigger you, and do what you can to manage yourself and get through to next year.

Why Life Stressors Affect People Differently

Every family has its own average level of chronic anxiety, which is the product of the emotional structure within each family member.

An Important Message for People-Pleasers and Approval Seekers

You can take care of yourself first; because in reality, that’s the only real way you can truly live a life that serves as an expression of who you are. 

Drama

How to Stop Getting Caught in Drama That Isn’t Yours

Because of its seductive nature, drama is easy to get wrapped up in if you don’t make a solid commitment to change.

Understanding Forgiveness

No matter what’s happening, find the strength to forgive and let go so that you can live your life with love and understanding.  

Defining a Self While in a Relationship

Change happens when we’re able to clearly look at ourselves and define for ourselves how we want to live and who we want to be in our relationships.

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How I Learned What Being Helpful Really Means

What is help? When it comes to answering this question, I think we each need to look within, deliberate, decide, and act in the context of each situation we face.

Setting Boundaries During Coronavirus

When you’re a people-pleaser, setting boundaries isn’t easy—especially if you’re already anxious.

Apologies Are a Sign of Strength

A genuine apology offered and accepted is a way to stay close and connected to those you care about.

Negative thinking

Giving Up the “Worst Case Scenario” Mindset for Good

It's normal to have negative thoughts, no matter how extreme they might be at times.

Science-Backed Ways to Take Better Care of Yourself

These natural remedies aren’t magical solutions that will lead you to be anxiety-free, but taking care of yourself can set you up for major personal growth.

Anxiety

How to Relieve Coronavirus Anxiety

Learn to observe and accept your anxiety so you can dig deeper and find a sense of calm.

Anxiety

Anxiety vs. Coronavirus: How to Tell the Difference

Even though each individual suffering from anxiety may have unique symptoms, there’s a common experience associated with anxiety: irrational fear and dread.

Managing Your Anxiety During Anxious Times

Allow the anxious feelings to be there. Make peace with them, and let yourself feel the troubles they bring you.

How to Manage Your Anger

As my anger rose, all my training, meditation practice, and efforts to be rational disappeared; my centered self was nowhere to be found.

Magic Kingdom

6 Surprising Lessons I Learned at Disney World

Disney World is awesome for many reasons, but especially for teaching us lessons we can take into adulthood.

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What Happened to My Marriage?

Trying to create one full person out of two incomplete ones will not only be ineffective, it will also create more anxiety for both you and your partner.

How Anxiety Is Created in Relationships

When you understand that there’s a larger systemic process at work, then you can decide what you’d like to do when you are anxious.

Anxiety

What You Need to Know About Anxiety That No One Tells You

When you look at anxiety this way, you can understand that it doesn’t just go away, even if you feel relieved for a moment. Instead, it circulates within the relationship system.

How to Live an Emotionally Independent Life

There’s another type of emotional comfort worth trying out, and that’s the self-confidence of knowing you can handle anything you face.

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What to Do When Someone You Love Is Struggling

By committing to learning what real help is, I came to understand that if I could manage my anxiety about other people’s problems, I could think about real solutions.

Finding and Living Your Own Truth

This work is all about looking within, getting to know yourself, and then changing your mindset and beliefs about what truly aligns with your Self.

How to Build a Strong Sense of Self

Knowing yourself and becoming confident in who you are isn’t as easy as it may sound. Building a strong sense of yourself can seem like an impossible task at times.

How to Appreciate What You Have Already

There’s no limit to what we can appreciate if we’re paying close attention.

love

How to Love Someone With Anxiety

As a result of her work in therapy, Violet decided to start acting for herself by making an effort to decide how she’d like to respond when faced with Jeff’s anxiety.

Good Enough

Good Enough for Life

By slowing down, becoming more aware, looking within, and responding versus reacting to life, we’re able to connect with our true intentions, and finally feel good enough for life.

living intentionally

How to Better Manage Your Emotions

Being able to interact with people by staying connected and managing emotions is the mark of a person who lives with true intention.

No Pain, No Gain

No Pain, No Gain

The stimulus for a lobster’s growth is its discomfort. If lobsters avoided this discomfort, they’d never grow.

Family

How to Be Truthful Without Being Hurtful

If we scratch beneath the surface of our relationships, we’re likely to see that the issues we have might lie in what we’ve failed to communicate.

New Year

A New Year of Acceptance and Gratitude

So maybe change begins with acceptance and gratitude for what is. Maybe it starts with appreciating the good, the bad, and the ugly, knowing that there’s no magical changes.

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