Dreams have been described as dress rehearsals for real life, opportunities to gratify wishes, and a form of nocturnal therapy. A new theory aims to make sense of it all.
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Ilene Strauss Cohen Ph.D.
Take care of yourself. Protect yourself. Be aware of things that trigger you, and do what you can to manage yourself and get through to next year.
Every family has its own average level of chronic anxiety, which is the product of the emotional structure within each family member.
You can take care of yourself first; because in reality, that’s the only real way you can truly live a life that serves as an expression of who you are.
Because of its seductive nature, drama is easy to get wrapped up in if you don’t make a solid commitment to change.
No matter what’s happening, find the strength to forgive and let go so that you can live your life with love and understanding.
Change happens when we’re able to clearly look at ourselves and define for ourselves how we want to live and who we want to be in our relationships.
What is help? When it comes to answering this question, I think we each need to look within, deliberate, decide, and act in the context of each situation we face.
When you’re a people-pleaser, setting boundaries isn’t easy—especially if you’re already anxious.
A genuine apology offered and accepted is a way to stay close and connected to those you care about.
It's normal to have negative thoughts, no matter how extreme they might be at times.
These natural remedies aren’t magical solutions that will lead you to be anxiety-free, but taking care of yourself can set you up for major personal growth.
Learn to observe and accept your anxiety so you can dig deeper and find a sense of calm.
Even though each individual suffering from anxiety may have unique symptoms, there’s a common experience associated with anxiety: irrational fear and dread.
Allow the anxious feelings to be there. Make peace with them, and let yourself feel the troubles they bring you.
As my anger rose, all my training, meditation practice, and efforts to be rational disappeared; my centered self was nowhere to be found.
Disney World is awesome for many reasons, but especially for teaching us lessons we can take into adulthood.
Trying to create one full person out of two incomplete ones will not only be ineffective, it will also create more anxiety for both you and your partner.
When you understand that there’s a larger systemic process at work, then you can decide what you’d like to do when you are anxious.
When you look at anxiety this way, you can understand that it doesn’t just go away, even if you feel relieved for a moment. Instead, it circulates within the relationship system.
There’s another type of emotional comfort worth trying out, and that’s the self-confidence of knowing you can handle anything you face.
By committing to learning what real help is, I came to understand that if I could manage my anxiety about other people’s problems, I could think about real solutions.
This work is all about looking within, getting to know yourself, and then changing your mindset and beliefs about what truly aligns with your Self.
Knowing yourself and becoming confident in who you are isn’t as easy as it may sound. Building a strong sense of yourself can seem like an impossible task at times.
There’s no limit to what we can appreciate if we’re paying close attention.
As a result of her work in therapy, Violet decided to start acting for herself by making an effort to decide how she’d like to respond when faced with Jeff’s anxiety.
By slowing down, becoming more aware, looking within, and responding versus reacting to life, we’re able to connect with our true intentions, and finally feel good enough for life.
Being able to interact with people by staying connected and managing emotions is the mark of a person who lives with true intention.
The stimulus for a lobster’s growth is its discomfort. If lobsters avoided this discomfort, they’d never grow.
If we scratch beneath the surface of our relationships, we’re likely to see that the issues we have might lie in what we’ve failed to communicate.
So maybe change begins with acceptance and gratitude for what is. Maybe it starts with appreciating the good, the bad, and the ugly, knowing that there’s no magical changes.
Ilene S. Cohen, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist and blogger, who teaches in the Department of Counseling at Barry University.
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