Relationship Boot Camp

Humor

5 Signs That You're in a Healthy Relationship

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on June 16, 2021

Ask yourself: Does my relationship feel satisfying?

Ask yourself: Does my relationship feel satisfying?

Mating

Does Disappointing Others Make You Want to Give Up?

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on June 4, 2021

It sucks to date sometimes. If you end up feeling hurt or like you are hurting others, what do you do?

It sucks to date sometimes. If you end up feeling hurt or like you are hurting others, what do you do?

Self-Sabotage

Having to Hit Bottom Before You Change Is Often a Fallacy

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on March 21, 2017

Many people struggle with behaviors that are self-sabotaging. Here's why and what to do about it.

Many people struggle with behaviors that are self-sabotaging. Here's why and what to do about it.

Depression

Do You Contribute to Your Own Depression?

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on February 21, 2017

How many of these depression-generating factors apply to you?

How many of these depression-generating factors apply to you?

Are you as genuine and honest communicating as you think?

Relationships

Can You Overcome a Broken Heart?

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on January 7, 2015

After a breakup, do wait or start over? Often you must see your former partner realistically and not through rose colored glasses. It's a time to learn how to be alone without being lonely.

After a breakup, do wait or start over? Often you must see your former partner realistically and not through rose colored glasses. It's a time to learn how to be alone without being lonely.

Addiction

Dealing with Affairs Part Two

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on January 5, 2015

What can you expect to do with an unfaithful partner? If you believe they have asexual addiction, suggestions are made. A case scenario further explains what being unfaithful can create.

What can you expect to do with an unfaithful partner? If you believe they have asexual addiction, suggestions are made. A case scenario further explains what being unfaithful can create.

Extroversion

Sorry eHarmony, Compatibility Is Overrated

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on June 30, 2011

Many prefer people who compliment their preferences and interests. Sometimes, we marry the person we want to become. The stoic accountant marries the vivacious, extroverted party girl who in turn likes the stability and calm he provides. If two become one, who or what is the one they become?

Many prefer people who compliment their preferences and interests. Sometimes, we marry the person we want to become. The stoic accountant marries the vivacious, extroverted party girl who in turn likes the stability and calm he provides. If two become one, who or what is the one they become?

Relationships

Testing Others Can Sabotage Your Relationships

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on June 20, 2011

When you test your partner, he or she may be failing an examination and not know that a quiz has been given.

When you test your partner, he or she may be failing an examination and not know that a quiz has been given.

Relationships

You Can Be Too Controlling For Your Own Good and Drive Lovers Away

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on June 13, 2011

Can you only love someone who cares less about you than you do about them? Your control manevuers may be causing you problems.

Can you only love someone who cares less about you than you do about them? Your control manevuers may be causing you problems.

Sometimes, you can misread what's going on and come on too strong when your maneuvers just aren't appreciated, causing a premature breakup.

Are you too picky with others? You might be creating self-defeating intimacy blockers.

Relationships

Are you really open to the love you seek

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on May 23, 2011

Can you let people only get so close? At the same time, do you find you also can't let them get that far way?

Can you let people only get so close? At the same time, do you find you also can't let them get that far way?

Is Tiger Woods an American tragedy or just an elite athlete with bad luck?

The time after a breakup provides an opportunity to process valuable information that can lead to more intimate, loving relationships in the future.

Relationships

Can You Friend Your Way to a Serious Love Relationship?

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on May 6, 2011

It's miraculous to find someone you want to date who is available to date you. Can you build a friendship and realize you might be in queue?

It's miraculous to find someone you want to date who is available to date you. Can you build a friendship and realize you might be in queue?

Most are haunted by their top secret and have never disclosed it. Can you do this anonymously?

After you establish a new love relationship, your friends can become just as jealous as a scorned lover. Do you know what to do?

Anxiety

Can you understand, tolerate, and overcome your social anxiety

Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on April 26, 2011

It's little wonder so many more people are becoming socially anxious. There has been a proliferation of cell phone, computer based chat rooms, texting, twitter, internet dating services and facebook. Isn't it common for many to start relationships today that aren't even face-to-face?

It's little wonder so many more people are becoming socially anxious. There has been a proliferation of cell phone, computer based chat rooms, texting, twitter, internet dating services and facebook. Isn't it common for many to start relationships today that aren't even face-to-face?

When you are dumped, do you mourn, wait or go on? It can be horrible. It's a time you need to stop trying to figure out where "their head is at."