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Gender
Why Can't Boys Be Boys?

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on February 10, 2020

Boys should not be shamed for showing an interest in “girly” things, nor should they be shamed for traditional gender preferences and behaviors either.

Boys should not be shamed for showing an interest in “girly” things, nor should they be shamed for traditional gender preferences and behaviors either.

Fantasies
A Little Satirical Fun: College Professor Fantasy Camp

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on December 27, 2018

Who needs rock star camp? In my College Professor Fantasy Camp, anyone with the $3,999.99 to cough up for it will briefly be able to enjoy the thrill of being a college professor!

Who needs rock star camp? In my College Professor Fantasy Camp, anyone with the $3,999.99 to cough up for it will briefly be able to enjoy the thrill of being a college professor!

Gender
A Brilliant Young Woman’s Message for These Polarized Times

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on December 22, 2018

In this time of incredible polarization in our country — including in the academic world — we desperately need people who earnestly try to see the other side of issues.

In this time of incredible polarization in our country — including in the academic world — we desperately need people who earnestly try to see the other side of issues.

Anger
Boys Are In Trouble

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on December 3, 2018

Many boys are not reaching their full potential in school, leading, among other things, to a large gender gap in college enrollment.

Many boys are not reaching their full potential in school, leading, among other things, to a large gender gap in college enrollment.

Bias
Intersectionality and the Tragedy of the Black Male

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on September 24, 2018

American feminism has, unfortunately, often had the unintended consequence of perpetuating racism -- particularly as it affects black boys and men.

American feminism has, unfortunately, often had the unintended consequence of perpetuating racism -- particularly as it affects black boys and men.

Bias
Left Wing Intolerance on Campus Is Meeting Its Match

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on September 4, 2018

I see Jonathan Haidt and the Heterodox Academy as part of a growing movement both on campus and elsewhere toward more acceptance of dissent from liberal orthodoxy.

I see Jonathan Haidt and the Heterodox Academy as part of a growing movement both on campus and elsewhere toward more acceptance of dissent from liberal orthodoxy.

Bias
Loving Pale Males

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on August 16, 2018

A moment in 1993 galvanized me. It led to me write the following piece which, while it concentrated on white males, was really about issues facing boys (and men) in general.

A moment in 1993 galvanized me. It led to me write the following piece which, while it concentrated on white males, was really about issues facing boys (and men) in general.

Anger
You Don't Hit Girls

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on June 21, 2018

Men should never ever hit women, but women’s anger directed at men is helping me overcome years of verbal deference.

Men should never ever hit women, but women’s anger directed at men is helping me overcome years of verbal deference.

Gender
Solving the Pronoun Problem

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on June 6, 2018

To lighten things up a little, let's consider a solution to the pronoun problem that is simple, completely balanced, and non-sexist.

To lighten things up a little, let's consider a solution to the pronoun problem that is simple, completely balanced, and non-sexist.

Gender
Feminizing Boys as We Masculinize Girls

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on March 29, 2018

The problem for boys whose masculinity is under attack is that both women and men who scored higher on the masculinity scale were more likely to have higher self-esteem.

The problem for boys whose masculinity is under attack is that both women and men who scored higher on the masculinity scale were more likely to have higher self-esteem.

Anger
A (Mostly) Fun Look at Anger

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on March 15, 2018

Countless people have made suggestions on how we can control our anger. My feeling is, Yeah, right, sure; if those people had the life I’ve had, they’d be angry, too!

Countless people have made suggestions on how we can control our anger. My feeling is, Yeah, right, sure; if those people had the life I’ve had, they’d be angry, too!

Anxiety
Does Concern For Boys Put You In the Alt-Right?

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on February 28, 2018

To see those concerned about boys and men perceived by progressives as associated with conspiracy theorists, white nationalists, and anti-Semites troubles me deeply.

To see those concerned about boys and men perceived by progressives as associated with conspiracy theorists, white nationalists, and anti-Semites troubles me deeply.

Aging
Song Lyrics Revised For the Older Crowd

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on December 20, 2017

For old folks, Paul McCartney’s “I’ve Just Seen a Face” would now be “I’ve Just Seen the Ground,” and the chorus would be “Falling, yes, I’m falling/Hope someone’s calling 9-1-1."

For old folks, Paul McCartney’s “I’ve Just Seen a Face” would now be “I’ve Just Seen the Ground,” and the chorus would be “Falling, yes, I’m falling/Hope someone’s calling 9-1-1."

Gender
Men Need Not Apply

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on December 12, 2017

What message is EMILY’s List sending to progressive men who want to run for office? What does a strong preference for hiring females say to our sons? Seems like a gender purging.

What message is EMILY’s List sending to progressive men who want to run for office? What does a strong preference for hiring females say to our sons? Seems like a gender purging.

Sex
“We Will Replace You”

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on November 28, 2017

Yes, men’s sex drive can be a problem. So do we replace men who are major contributors to society with women in order to avoid potential problems around male sexuality?

Yes, men’s sex drive can be a problem. So do we replace men who are major contributors to society with women in order to avoid potential problems around male sexuality?

Gender
My Therapist's Office: The Ultimate Free Speech Zone

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on September 26, 2017

I have always felt that in my rants—my "passionate discourses"—I am at my most eloquent. But I can’t go on and on ranting to anyone, except my therapist! And she listens.

I have always felt that in my rants—my "passionate discourses"—I am at my most eloquent. But I can’t go on and on ranting to anyone, except my therapist! And she listens.

Aging
Do I Dare to Read a Poem?

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on September 4, 2017

The poets considered most brilliant are the ones who most directly confront our deepest fears.

The poets considered most brilliant are the ones who most directly confront our deepest fears.

Marriage
Some Tips for Staying Married

Mark Sherman Ph.D. on June 20, 2017

Suggestions from a long-married guy for keeping your marriage going beyond those first few crazy-in-love passionate years (or months).

Suggestions from a long-married guy for keeping your marriage going beyond those first few crazy-in-love passionate years (or months).