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Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D.
Self-disclosure is important in romantic relationships, but should it include one’s sexual history?
There are people who fall in love quickly, easily, and frequently. Does this way of falling in love promote an enduring, profound love?
Issues of comparison feature heavily in both thought and emotions. Is comparison, which often leads to envy and jealousy, less poisonous in open romantic relationships?
Many romantic relations are unsettled and therefore not entirely fulfilled. Why is the passion in these relations so strong, and can we speak about exciting calmness?
Sex and food are connected in many ways; are they also similar in terms of morality?
Women say that they hate stinginess in a man. Why? And if this is really so, who do stingy men marry?
Most men would love to hear that they are “good in bed.” Yet can something so good, in fact, be bad?
Can casual sex be part of profound friendship? How similar is “friendship with sex” to romantic love?
Are "sugar babies" girlfriends or sex workers? It seems that they walk a line between the two.
The dancing heart and the thinking head are powerful rivals in romantic love. Should the head be ranking our romantic priorities — or should the heart lead the romantic dance?
Compersion is a recently coined term that describes your happiness from your partner’s happiness with another lover. How is such an experience possible?
A sapiosexual is someone who is attracted to intelligence. What is so appealing about intelligence, and why are librarians perceived as sexy but not philosophers?
While kissing may seem like minor touching, it is crucial in romance. Hence, many people hesitate before marrying a bad kisser. Are they right to do so?
In romance sensitivity enjoys high regard, while indifference appears downright malignant. Yet, I believe that sensible indifference is essential to enduring romantic love.
When decreasing inequality enhances envy and increasing inequality stokes love.
Most men would love to hear that they are “good in bed.” But can that sentiment ever be negative?
Why are we pleased by others’ romantic misfortunes?
The goodness of profound love seems hard to argue with. Nevertheless, people do criticize lovers. Can one tell her beloved that she loves him too much?
These are flourishing times for love, even its renaissance. Love is in the air, yet the air is often too thin and polluted to permit the development of long-term, profound love.
Romantic love is often regarded as either a momentary experience (“now or never”) or a permanent one (“forever and a day”). Are those our only romantic choices?
People often settle for less than their dreamed-about romantic partner. How much “less” can their partner be and still be a sufficiently good partner?
Contrary to popular belief, older people are often happier and more romantically attached than their younger counterparts. The nature of these romantic attachments may differ.
Enduring romantic love is harder to achieve than friendship. Do we want to waste our time and energy on uncertain romantic love when we can more easily get profound friendship?
People sometimes think that by finding the perfect person, they will find their perfect partner. They are wrong. Suitability, not perfection, is the name of the romantic game.
How our romantic lives change over time.
Searching for your ex-lover is easier these days than ever before. Should this search be encouraged? The answer is different for the short and long term.
Both surrender and submission involve yielding to a superior power. However, in romantic relations, they differ in a way that makes only surrender a thriving experience.
Many people associate moaning and screaming with pain. Why, then, should people make these noises while experiencing sexual pleasure? Are we not embarrassed to do so?
Two major types of romantic rejection that end in separation are rejection because of someone else, and rejection because of no one else. Which type is more painful?
Caregivers who love their ailing spouse but cannot attend to their own romantic needs can feel captive. Should they get, as other inmates do, brief vacations due to good behavior?
Aaron Ben-Zeév, Ph.D., former President of the University of Haifa, is a professor of philosophy. His books include The Arc of Love: How Our Romantic Lives Change Over Time.