A loving relationship can be an oasis in uncertain times, but nurturing it requires attention, honesty, openness, vulnerability, and gratitude.
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From therapy to art to life
Joan Cusack Handler Ph.D.
A master poet freed me with one simple idea: Discard convention and explore your own impulses, he said. Invent your own art.
The paradox: We write because we have something to say but fear of exposure often inhibits our message.
As critical as voice is to our art, few talk about it—what it is, how we "find" it, what interferes with or enhances it—this elusive thing we can’t make art without.
Writer’s block is terrifying. But you can grow as a writer without being destroyed emotionally.
Envy and greed have been the most forbidden emotions I’ve battled with throughout my life.
Learning to write was not easy until I began to see myself as an instrument — recording every thought or feeling in the language in which it arrived. My Rule:Don't erase/criticize
I needed to give myself over to something whole and alive — that was mine alone. Thus began my life with the possibility of poems. Therein lay my recovery.
Creative writing may be the most psychologically challenging of all the arts.
Involvement with art, one's own or another's, is emotionally and psychologically healing.
If you are one who trusts easily and quickly, consider the possibility that this may work against you rather than for you.
As long as feelings remain hidden, we're powerless to affect change in our lives/relationships.
Feelings that are denied or dismissed do not disappear. Instead, they are intensified. Find out how to "take your emotional temperature" and make sense of what you feel.
I know of no relationship that improved without conversation.
Closure for me would only be possible with a clear understanding of my mother’s pathology and its origins.
The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust series explores the impact of early relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood. VIII discusses the decision to parent or not.
Couples therapy teaches that there are at least six people in every intimate relationship.
The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.
The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood
The impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.
I can count on my one hand the women I know—friends or patients—whose relationship with their mothers is not the root of their most troubled selves.
Joan Cusack Handler, Ph.D., is a poet, memoirist, and psychologist. Her widely published poems have won five Pushcart nominations.