I agree, and that is a point of consideration when considering how to approach reconciliation. What do you do? What are the best approaches to reconcile when trust has eroded, feelings are hurt, pride is hurt and times are hard? What do you do when alot is going on and the relationship was promising, but after an external incident(curable STD unknowing, non-cheating) comes into play and harms the trust one partner was placing in the other? The one partner is VERY guarded, independent, yet loving and the other really likes him and sees a possible future. Thoughts?