Dear Anon, Couldn't disagree more. Here we go again - there's a world of difference between emotionally grieving the absence of a person in your life, and the rational, intellectual fact that until or unless you get Alzheimer's, you will never forget that person.
And, differences abound between emotions/feelings and self pity. To marry those two ideas is to not understand either. We suggest you try to avoid platitudes and cliches about grief - especially about anyone other than yourself. Respectfully, RF