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Yes! If MIL is acting immature and not compromising also, what gives her the right or entitlement to her grandchildren? Just because she becomes a grandmother doesn't give her the right to them if she acts like an a-hole to them and her DIL. Her behavior causes her own suffering in not being able to see her grandkids. I'm sure DIL would love for her kids to enjoy both grandmothers' love and attention, but a DIL must take care of herself and her immediate family by setting boundaries regarding appropriate behavior by MIL. MIL's behavior sounds damaging to grandson. She needs to GTFU. She's a mother, she should know any mother will protect their kids first before allowing another, especially an adult to mistreat or abuse her children. She should be ashamed of her emotional abuse. She's the selfish one.
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