I agree with forgiveness. But there has never, ever been a meeting in the middle. My MIL is the "Matriarch" of the family. However, boundaries were finally set by me, and I have stuck with it. It's a total waste of energy, happiness, your sanity. My MIL must be absolutely miserable to get her kicks out of her tortuous comments aimed at me, and with a sweet smile on her face! It's a down right evil attitude that she has. I'm done, and I couldn't be happier. Now with the Holidays, birthdays etc, we don't go around them at all. We all feel 100% better. I never thought I would be able to confront her but saying what I needed to say was important for my own well being. Now, her and my awful FIL spend the holidays, birthdays by themselves, it's their own doing. Do I feel bad? No, they are they way they are by their choice, not mine. But I have learned that we all have choices too, to be happy and live a happy life without the toxic waste in-laws. Severing ties to these two people was the right thing to do! :)

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