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I totally know how you feel, I've been through all that too, the saddest part is that my HD looks away, most of the times the mean comments or ways they do to make me feel an outsiders are when he's not around, so I feel like he thinks I am oversensitive, which makes me really sad. It's been 15 years of this drama and things haven't change.
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