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I can't say I agree with you about compromising when it comes to kids being involved. My mother in-law has bullied my son since day one practically while putting my daughter up on a pedestal. This went on for several years with everyone telling me to just keep the peace before it got so bad that neither one of my kids wanted to visit them. I put my foot down and it has basically started world war 3, but my kids come first. You aren't going to treat my kid like crap and get away with it! It's been a year and a half and the two times she has seen the kids she's barely said hi to them. Just this last week we were at a family function for the first time since everything went down and she went around and said goodbye to every other kid that was there but mine. Yes, the kids talk about them, but they don't ask to see them like they do my parents. My in-laws did this to themselves and I refuse to subject my kids to their Idiocracy! Plus, the in-laws refuse to allow me to have any sort of opinion or feelings about the matter. The instant I told them why I was upset they rold us they never wanted to hear from us again. They demand respect but refuse to return it. After nearly 18 years of putting up with disrespect I've had enough. I'm not going to allow anyone to walk all over me anymore! I don't like confrontation but sometimes you just have to put your foot down and say no! Sure it's been hard on my marriage but my husband is understanding. It's never been a walk in the park for him when it comes to his parents anyway. He could have had it worse, but he also could have had it better growing up with them...I see the sadness in his eyes everyday from the hell his mom out him through. I don't want my kids to feel the same thing! So...no compromising here!!!
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