Values are what bring distinction to your life. You don't find them, you choose them. And when you do, you're on the path to fulfillment.
Yes, but you are also going under the assumption that the MIL respects YOU as a parent of her grandchildren. If that's not the case, you are u see no obligation to respect her in return, or to bite your tongue and allow her to be harmful to you and yet still have a relationship with your children. Sometimes it's better for the grandchildren to not have a relationship with a grandparent rather than watching a grandparent ruin the lives/personal relationships of their parents.
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