A comment that I have heard many times is, "I was smacked a lot and it never hurt me". I can feel their vain attempts in trying to comes to terms with the obvious hurt. Physical abuse is openly acknowledged.
The emotional is not. We know the sticks and stones chant now is not at all true. Documented evidenced based experiments have proven that emotional pain is similar to physical. Probably worse, through lack of public recognition.
When therapists know how to deal with the conscious and subconscious messages from childhood abuse and neglect effectively, THEN we can start to discuss people who hang on as the helpless victims or can't go beyond victim hood that needi to take more responsibility to move on.
The amygdala does not lie, but can overprotect - for one's lifetime.
Loooong way to go, still.