I totally believe in non-ownership love and you make the strongest possible case for it. Epistle of I Cor 13 love is this sort of love. But it's tough if she cultivates a new connection while hiding it for a long time. I mean, sexual jealously is hard coded into us and if it's not actively managed and there's sneaking around it's hard for me to keep up goodwill.

I'm apt to announce whatever's up with me, come what may, let my partner process the information and *talk*. Why hide. If there's a new partnership emerging and there's not room for everybody so be it, but it's not okay to trick people.

I'm not confident I can sustain a partnership in the future because of my ADHD. It's hard for me to be consistent. For example, I might clean the house/apartment consistently for months becomes I'm really into it, then lose interest in cleaning and it all falls apart and I let the dishes pile up until the GUESTS are arriving or level of filth bothers me enough to motivate.

I think it will take an extraordinarily tolerant saint to be my next partner.

Thank you for this recent article, I hope PsychologyToday preserves these articles forever so thousands can benefit. You clearly have been generating so much good stuff lately.