Anonymous wrote:

The expectation that the numbers of sexual encounters and numbers of different partners has to equal the same totals for men as a group and women as a group is silly. It assumes that each individual coordinates their sexual activity with partners.

It's not silly at all. You sound completely confused, or you misread the statement. Nobody said the number of partners had to equal the number of sexual encounters. What was said was that the total number of different partners for all men as a group has to equal the total number of different partners for women as a group. And another statement is that the total number of partners for all men as a group has to equal the total number of partners for women as a group.

And the reason is very simple, obviously. Or if you're having trouble grasping it, the explanation is very simple. Whenever a man has a new partner, there is a woman right there with him for whom that man is a new partner for that woman. There are no exceptions. And likewise, every time a mans has straight sex, there is a woman there having sex with a man.

So it is not possible for men as a group to have a larger number of different partners, nor is it possible for men as a group to have a larger number of total partners.

If you are having trouble grasping any of that, please try to describe our difficulty.

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Some people won't decline an opportunity to have casual sex. And, others are very discriminating. It would be remarkable if the numbers for men and women matched up. Some Don Juan is racking up significant numbers and the ladies he is getting with might have very few other lovers.

Doesn't matter how discriminating or selective anybody is. Are you having trouble with basic math?

If a Don Juan is racking up a lot of lovers, the totals are still the same. Say he has 1000 women, while all the other men are virgins. Well, then the total number of women all the men have had is 1000. And the total number of men all the women have had sex with is also exactly 1000 -- each of 1000 women has had sex with Don Juan.

What part of that are you having trouble with?