The main difference in genders is not the process but in the behavior. For example, men might distance by becoming involved with work, and women with children. Both genders can be controlling, or use anger, blame, or withdrawal to create distance. Women have been trained to be more indirect. However, both men and women can be passive-aggressive. Women might complain and ask questions, e.g., "Why don't you...?", whereas a man might give orders.