I agree that some people withhold saying those two words because of the power it has to let the other person heal their wounds. They don't want you to feel better, it's continual punishment and that is what they are after. It's wrong. If you are in the position someone really does need to say those words to you but just won't, you feel disrespected, feelings disregarded and like you are so low on the list of people who's feelings you hurt and it takes alot to swallow that carry on as if it just isn't important and you need to swallow it and never get often a very justifiable admission of wrongdoing. I have done it many times...but it does not feel good, I haven't mastered being trampled on and continue as if it were of no importance. It's two tiny words for heavens sake. Say them and everyone could get the emotional release they give.