Values are what bring distinction to your life. You don't find them, you choose them. And when you do, you're on the path to fulfillment.
-----"The silent treatment and ostracism is bully behavior. The daughter was being a bully by not speaking to her mother."
The daughter has an absolute right to engage in behaviors that reduce or eliminate harm to herself and her loved ones. Refusing to speak to someone is part of harm reduction behaviors, and not bullying behavior.
Some people don't care if the silence won't ever improve the dysfunctional family patterns, because after decades of bad behavior, many people are right to throw in the towel and engage in silence. Especially when one is aging and cherishes their own peace of mind over family dynamics. When one is 70 and Mommy or Daddy is 90 and still engages in verbal abuse then the 70 year old offspring has every right to disconnect for their own health.
Holding onto old behaviors might have a purpose.
Psychology explains why reports of wrongdoing are often attacked.
New research shows how to use a problem-solving tool you already have