Values are what bring distinction to your life. You don't find them, you choose them. And when you do, you're on the path to fulfillment.
I really had to laugh about the "I need you to remind me, can you do it nicely?” part. So she wants people to be nice about it, while the whole problem is that she is not so nice to others. So she does know that it sucks when people treat you that way, yet she does it anyway!
Oh and no contact is not bullying! It's protecting yourself from people who hurt you. I have a choice about who I want in my life, just because it's family doesn't mean I HAVE TO stay in touch.
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