Values are what bring distinction to your life. You don't find them, you choose them. And when you do, you're on the path to fulfillment.
And if that is not curable - won't she simply learn how to behave in front of the members who won't tolerate her behavior (such as her adult children and spouse), but continue with the bullying behaver with other's who don't have the means to stand up for themselves such as future grandchildren or other vulnerable people she comes in contact with?
That is how I read how this is going to go in the future.
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