Neil Farber M.D, Ph.D., CLC, CPT wrote:

Hello Rusking,
Thanks for taking the time to comment.
You are obviously well read on the subject of the law of attraction. As such I assume that all of your goals, and dreams have been fulfilled. You are probably sitting on your perfect yacht in the south of France sipping champagne and eating the finest caviar, waiting for your private jet to fly you back to your private island...
I appreciate that man is not advanced enough to understand "the secrets of the universe." However, this law of attraction is not a natural law. It was made up in the late 1800s by men looking to get rich. It was based on what we now know was incorrect science.
My questions:
1) If there is a LOA, why do babies get sick? Why do Tibetan monks get old? Why do happy, innocent children celebrating a birthday get murdered by terrorists?
2) If the LOA is a perfect universal law, then why do we need to understand it for it to work? Why is the success rate at achieving goals only 0.1%? Gravity works 100% of the time whether or not I believe in it Why stick with a scheme that is so ineffective?
3) "Outcome" visualization necessitated by the law of attraction is far less effective than is "process" visualization. This is not my opinion, this has been shown in scientific research.
4) Research also shows that visualizing a "perfect" relationship or "perfect" diet (as mandated by the law of attraction) leads to a greater chance of failure and less motivation.
There are many reasons, many of which I have discussed in the article to not be fooled into believing in a LOA. I am proposing a scientifically-based goal setting program, that is more effective (in scientific research studies) and more motivating.
I do not have a need to sell a program to people who feel they are benefitting from a belief in a LOA. Of course anybody that believes in the LOA shouldn't be reading articles that dispute it's validity - that's negative!

I'll ignore the sarcasm and get right into it.

First off, LoA or whatever you want to call 'it'... what it's really about, at its core, is about tapping into our own power through self-acceptance and unlearning negative beliefs. Pretty much psychology 101.

(I personally stay away from referring to it as LoA due to the misinformation that's out there as well as the shady people trying to make money off of it)

The reason so many people get it wrong is simple, they're not very self aware nor are they very in tune with themselves and what they believe.

And they'll try to use the "LoA" as a way to get more 'things' which really just satisfies ones ego and comes from a place of lack. They use it as a tool, as a means to an end. But it's not a tool, it's more of a "this is how it works" and being consciously aware of how it works can be pretty powerful, just not *necessarily* in the way many would think (red lamborghinis and such).

That being said, here are the answers to your questions:

1) Because there is such a thing as disease and other 'laws' of the universe. Biology doesn't halt just because someone "fully accepts themselves". Totally different modes of being/thinking. They overlap, sure (positive thinking --> faster recovery) but the physical world doesn't just cease to be.

2) You don't need to understand it (it's just that understanding it makes one all the more powerful... it's like the difference between being ignorant and being knowledgeable... when you base your decisions on that knowledge, you can make better decisions. Simple as that.)

Success rate of 0.1%? Where'd you get that statistic? But whatever the actual number, your question is an invalid one. The law of gravity works 100% of the time, except we can fly planes, right? Yes, I know that sounds silly, but it's really to show you how silly YOUR question is because "LoA" works even "negatively" (put in quotations because human perception is what labels things as positive or negative when really, the universe is 'neutral' and things don't happen as a way to punish us... that's just ridiculous, it's not personal).

Whatever the success rate is of achieving goals... that's really just one of the many "LoA" side effects, not LoA itself. Duh. And it largely depends on how people go about it anyway, and we all know how good people are at understanding "LoA"... just look at your own article HAHAHAHAHAHAH (it's pretty damn funny to be honest). Most are looking for shortcuts when they set goals. That's still "LoA" btw... when they don't achieve those goals.

3) What I've learned about the LoA is opposite what you say. I've learned to enjoy the process and take inspired action. To be in the present moment, happy with yourself, and grateful for what you have. So what's this nonsense you're spouting?

4) Hmm... weird again. Dunno what books you've read, but that is totally false. Nothing is perfect and the "LoA" I subscribe to doesn't say what you've described. Visualizing is only one tool of LoA... one which I don't really use. The perfect relationship and perfect diet are total BS. you don't visualize those things, you either build them (a good healthy relationship, not a perfect one) or follow them (a good diet).

Notice how both of those things, in order to have them 'appear' in your life, depend on the relationship one has with themselves:

- If I don't feel worthy, then by default I am insecure... and it makes perfect sense that my relationships will suffer and by definition will NOT be healthy. Doesn't get any easier to understand than that.

- If I don't have much respect for my body and health or I'm stuck in the "fat" mentality, then I won't stick to a good diet. The key isn't to go from 0 to 100 (from eating fast food regularly to becoming vegetarian, for example). The mind cannot make such a huge switch in a short amount of time due to all the patterns one has developed over the years. Again, psychology 101. So simple yet so many get it wrong. There is no "perfect" diet. But when you have enough respect for your body, you would definitely have the motivation to stick to transition (

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