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New Year’s Resolutions Should Be Enjoyable, Not Stressful

Resolutions should be realistic, well though out, and pleasurable.

Every New Year, many of us make resolutions designed to reach the goal of making our lives healthier, more meaningful, or enjoyable.

Too often, however, those New Year’s resolutions don’t lead to us to making those goals, because they’re not realistic, well thought out, or pleasurable. People also seem to rush through deciding what the resolutions are – even though there is no deadline. It’s important to think it through.

For example, I’ve watched people I know declare that “this year, I’m going to lose 30 pounds,” and then obsess about each pound they lose – or gain. I wonder to myself, why was the goal 30 pounds? What are they really trying to accomplish? Was the 30-pound goal attainable, or was it a random number that set the entire plan down the drain?

My guess is the real goal was to get into better physical shape. So, why not make the resolution, I’m going to exercise for 20 minutes per day and feel better about my stamina?

By declaring the New Year’s resolution that way, a person makes it more possible to reach the goal, all while developing healthy, impactful habits along the way. Now the person is exercising, and in time will accomplish longer walks, runs, or other workouts. It beats obsessing about a weight check. The goal that allows someone to comfortably add to their exercise regimen is also much kinder, and it’s important for everyone to be kind to themselves.

Focus on your well-being, like you always should. If a New Year’s resolution is not doing that, it’s not worth creating. Don’t create an artificial timeline based on something you read on social media or deal with culturally.

And if the resolution isn’t working out the way it was supposed to, that’s alright; it happens. Don’t be disappointed with yourself. Adjust the goals and give it another shot.

By creating a positive aura around a resolution, you’re also allowing for self-discovery. That self-discovery will help you recognize what really brings you joy – and that will make 2023 a more joyful, healthy, successful, and meaningful New Year.

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