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Two Dreams Can Be Seen as One Conversation

Pay close attention when your mind ties two dreams together.

Key points

  • On the subject of one's nighttime problem-solving, a mental leap from one dream to another is no accident.
  • Once analyzed, two different dreams will often reveal a continuation of the same conversation.
  • Focusing on the emotion experienced in two separate dreams can provide the dreamer with a link for discussion.
  • Sometimes two different dreams inside a very close time frame can provide the same solution for a current situation the dreamer is facing.

While describing a dream about a dance recital, Ann immediately thought of a different dream. However, she didn’t know why she made this connection. Upon discussing both dreams, Ann realized that they had the same emotion and that the dreams suggested a similar solution to her waking-life situation. Her mental leap from one dream to the other was no accident.

The Dreams

“I was back in college and on my way to a dance recital. I get there very late, in the wrong outfit, and everyone is yelling at me including the president, who happens to be one of my best friends. Right before I go on stage, I forget the combination and the choreography and so I panic and end up not going on stage with the rest of the group.

“I’m watching in the audience, and I can tell the girls are so mad and disappointed in me that I didn’t go on stage with them. I felt so stupid for forgetting all the choreography, but it was almost as if I had never been there to learn it.

“In the other dream, a group of my friends from work was all together, leaving me out purposely and talking a lot of bad stuff about me. I woke up and literally had to confirm with them that they were not mad at me.”

The Discussion

I began our discussion by offering, “In your first dream, you can’t seem to get it right. You arrive late, wearing the wrong outfit, forgetting the choreography, and people are angry with you.

“Where in your life in the past week did you feel like nothing was going right? At work? On the dating scene? Was there a situation where you threw up your hands and said to yourself, ‘I just can’t do this!’”

Ann replied, “The part about my forgetting the choreography happens to be a recurring dream. It happens once every few months. In this case, two incidents come to mind. My forgetting the choreography is probably related to my work. I have been at the same corporation for years and was promoted two weeks ago.

“I’m more comfortable now, but at the time of this dream, I was still feeling a little lost and anxious to complete tasks, afraid I would forget the steps.”

Noticing Ann’s play on words, I quipped, “Did you say you were afraid you would ‘forget the steps’?”

Ann confirmed, “Yes! That fits perfectly how I was feeling, and there’s more. For years I have been building my personal brand as an influencer online, and I often model and advertise clothing and products sold at my employer.

“They have always been happy for my influencing, but during the same week that I had these dreams, a jealous co-worker reported me to HR for some of my work-related social media content. I felt like everything I had put into networking and my brand at work was going to crumble because of it.”

I observed, “Your dreams have a similar, salient theme concerning anger and disappointment towards you. If we stay with that, do you think the dreams reflect your concern about HR’s reaction to your posting online?”

She answered, “Yes. Definitely. In fact, I explained to HR what a great employee I am and how my posts aren’t negative or break the rules. They accepted everything I said, so I relieved any worries I had about my ‘performance.’”

I shared an observation that Ann’s situation brought to me: “These two dreams seem to be associated. In the first one, you leave your friends on stage, while in the second dream it’s your coworkers who leave you out. It’s an interesting twist, especially since you were facing a situation where you were afraid you might end up being pushed out at work!”

Ann caught my observation, immediately offering, “That’s true and at the same time, the second dream also brings to mind a Jonas Brothers concert. A friend gave me her ticket, but I was hurt and confused why my other friends didn’t invite me to join them in the first place. I know the second dream is reflecting this event because the girls from work talking about me in my dream are the exact same girls from the Jonas Brothers concert.

“It’s a great observation that I leave them first and then they are leaving me. It’s as if I captured myself turning the tables around at work by standing up for myself with HR.”

What We Can Learn

Ann herself hinted at what she could learn by tying the two dreams together. The first dream pointed to a situation that caused her great anxiety but to which she found the solution by speaking up.

Her immediate association to another dream pointed to a different situation at work, one that also caused anxiety, having the same solution. In the context of her work friendships, Ann can make the shift from feeling worried to, instead, confidently speaking up about how she felt not being included in the group buying tickets for the concert.

If you find that a dream immediately brings to mind another dream, try analyzing them both as a part of a full conversation. You will likely find them to be connected in various ways, and you can multiply your learning by finding these connections.

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