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How to Free Yourself From Problem Partners
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT
Narcissists' brains function differently. Understanding both their charm and their malice and their weapons and defenses shields and empowers you to take effective action.
We may be stuck in unhappy relationships, including with narcissists who lack intimacy. We can change so we don't keep loving unavailable partners.
We’re wired to need others, making rejection especially painful. But we have the power to grow from it and recover faster. Here are 24 tips on how to move on.
If you might be in an abusive relationship, it's vital to understand the relationship dynamics, what actions to take to change them, and how to recover your power and self-esteem.
Wonder whether you’re in love or in lust? Are you obsessed because you’re in love or are you addicted? Discover 10 warning signs and 8 steps to heal love addiction.
Neuroscience shows how a dominant brain can influence a weaker one, which may help explain so-called "mind control" in abusive relationships.
Sons of narcissistic mothers suffer harm to their autonomy, self-worth, and relationships with women.
Unresolved conflict can escalate and destroy relationships. Managing differences in a healthy way brings couples closer.
Valentine's Day is fraught with landmines that can derail expectations and cause unhappiness, whether or not you're in a relationship. Get 6 tips for how to have a great day.
Sibling bullying and abuse is so common, it's ignored, but is a hidden epidemic. Often mistaken for rivalry, it carries the same trauma as child abuse. Bullying begins in the home.
It shocks the heart to have love ripped away without an explanation. Understanding the reasons may help you recover.
Usually, people think intimacy means sharing private information or having sex. But real intimacy can be transforming, making you feel content, empowered, whole, alive, and happy.
Are you distrustful and assume the worst, or do you overtrust and get easily taken in? What’s the right way?
Denial can help us or harm us when we ignore problems or our feelings or needs. If you're in denial, you won't know it. Find out how to recognize denial.
Anger's a normal reaction when our needs aren’t met, our boundaries are violated, or trust is broken. Anger moves us to take action. Identify the triggers and how best to respond.
A gray rock strategy denies abusers and narcissists their needs, but it's only useful in certain situations. Learn the pro's, cons, and hidden dangers.
Whether you're being abused or see yourself as a victim in your life the solution is the same. These 10 steps will boost your mood, self-esteem, and sense of personal power. Start!
Is self-love narcissistic? Do narcissists love themselves? Is some narcissism healthy? Find out what, when, and how narcissism can be helpful and what makes it negative.
Power enables us to have a sense of control, to have choices, and to influence our environment and others. Abuse can rob us of our power, but we can regain it and restore balance.
Why do you love an abuser despite the abuse? Learn how trauma binds you, and why it can be even harder to leave an abuser than a normal relationship.
Loving someone with borderline personality disorder is heaven and hell. Within hours, you're both adored and abandoned.
Sons of narcissistic fathers hide their insecurity, may feel a burden and that they don't meet their father's expectations. They may strive to succeed, but nothing feels enough.
If you’re discontented in a relationship or go from one to another, you may be stuck in a painful cycle that started in a childhood you thought was good.
Whether you're being abused or see yourself as a victim in your life the solution is the same. These 10 steps will boost your mood, self-esteem. and sense of personal power. Start!
Even when we're happy to leave, ending an abusive relationship doesn't end our trauma. Find out what to expect and what you can do to heal before or after leaving.
On the surface, narcissists and codependents appear opposite. But on closer look, they both feel incomplete.
Know your enemy when dealing with abusers and manipulators. Learn their hidden agenda, covert tactics, and how to respond effectively.
These are the essentials about narcissism, its symptoms, and its causes. Find out why narcissists' partners often form unhealthy bonds and can't leave.
Narcissists can be charming, exciting, and engaging. They also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, selfish, and cruel.
Trauma and abuse lower our self-worth, making us vulnerable to abusive relationships that reinforce false, negative beliefs.
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an expert and author on relationships and codependency.