Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist

Caregiving

Red Flags for Emotional Caretakers, Part Two

Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFT on October 18, 2015

Do you find it hard to notice when you are giving up your own needs and feelings and caretaking others? Here are some red flags to help you notice when you are doing too much caretaking of others.

Do you find it hard to notice when you are giving up your own needs and feelings and caretaking others? Here are some red flags to help you notice when you are doing too much caretaking of others.

The borderline or narcissist is often regretful, but how often do they really feel remorse for hurting others?

Assertiveness

How Can I Be More Assertive?

Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFT on January 31, 2015

Being assertive is easier when you have the right attitude.

Being assertive is easier when you have the right attitude.

Our inner critic voice developed in childhood, but we can learn to be in charge of how it affects our lives today.

Relationships

Red Flags for Emotional Caretakers--Part One

Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFT on November 7, 2014

It may be difficult to notice the red flags that manipulators give out when you first meet them. Here are some things to look for.

It may be difficult to notice the red flags that manipulators give out when you first meet them. Here are some things to look for.

Self-Talk

Four Steps to Deal with Your Inner Critic

Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFT on November 5, 2014

The voice of the Inner Critic can become a tyrant rather than a help. Learn to take control of that voice and improve your self-esteem.

The voice of the Inner Critic can become a tyrant rather than a help. Learn to take control of that voice and improve your self-esteem.

Bullying

How to Stop Getting Bullied

Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFT on July 7, 2014

We help our children deal with bullies, but are you dealing effectively with a borderline or narcissist bully in your life?

We help our children deal with bullies, but are you dealing effectively with a borderline or narcissist bully in your life?

Attention

The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFT on May 13, 2014

Is your relationship what you want it to be? Is it truly loving and respectful for both of you? Learn about the 5 A's of mindful loving.

Is your relationship what you want it to be? Is it truly loving and respectful for both of you? Learn about the 5 A's of mindful loving.

Caregiving

Finding Your Deepest Yearnings

Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFT on April 28, 2014

Taking the time from your daily worries and concerns about work, other people, finances, etc. and giving yourself time to really focus in on what is really important to you is more than worth it. It gives you a strong compass point to follow that will take you where you REALLY want to go.

Taking the time from your daily worries and concerns about work, other people, finances, etc. and giving yourself time to really focus in on what is really important to you is more than worth it. It gives you a strong compass point to follow that will take you where you REALLY want to go.

Relationships

When Relationships Are Based on Manipulation

Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFT on April 1, 2014

Emotional caretakers are easily manipulated into giving more and putting up with more in negative relationships. Are you selling yourself short?

Emotional caretakers are easily manipulated into giving more and putting up with more in negative relationships. Are you selling yourself short?

Only by being aware and present in your interactions can you collect the information you need to make your relationships reflect the best of who you are and who you want to be.

New research indicates that borderline personality disorder is primarily a neurobiological brain dysfunction, not as much learned as inherited. What does this mean for family members who want to be able to change or fix the disorder in their loved one?

Letting go of an emotional manipulator isn't easy, but you can do it.

Being married to a narcissist can be confusing, frustrating, and overwhelming. Here's what you can do about it.