Spellbound
Awakening from the threats, curses, and fairytales that hold us in thrall to others.
Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf.
Do your family holiday gatherings often end in an argument? Changing just a few of your conversational habits can help reduce conflict.
Trauma dumping can have a toxic effect on our relationships. Understanding why it happens and learning to set boundaries can help reduce the distress it causes.
Are you yearning for renewed purpose and meaning in your life? Relegating your inner critic can help you discover it.
Are you ruled by your critic? With a little help from your other inner people, you can learn to break free.
Active daydreaming is not a waste of time. It is a skill, and with some practice, it can improve your relationships and your performance at work.
Are you living your life through your children? Here's why Big O love hurts them—and you.
Do your intimate relationships too often end up in disappointment and disillusion? If so, you may be trapped in the Big O love loop.
Culture is like the emperor's new clothes. We see it, feel it and accept it, but it isn't the truth.
How much of what we feel and think is what we have been told to feel and think? And if we weren't told, who would we then be?
Underneath who you "should" be is your character—or who you are. Our character curses us when we deny, hide, or repress its true nature.
Are you frozen in the past? Memories can curse us when we fail to understand both their power and their limitations.
Do you suffer from the tendency to over-think? You're not alone. Consciousness is a mixed human blessing.
Part 1: If you are not what or who your consciousness, memory, character, family or culture tell you, then who are you?
We are made up of many 'selves' and each has something to say about our relationships. Acknowledging and listening to each other's selves helps us understand relational conflicts.
Humans have thrived through curiosity, so why is it that in our most significant relationships we don’t ask more and better questions of each other?
The excessive adoration and over-evaluation of "Big Others" diminishes our own worth. Who's on your red carpet?
Is it love or infatuation? Understanding how your emotions work will help you tell the difference.
Being kind to ourselves is not self-indulgent. It's the way to break a habit.
A promise to love each other "in difference and in health" is how your relationship will flourish.
Are you paying more attention to everyone else's needs and not your own? Learn four perception practices that help you re-direct your attention to where it is needed most.
If you are feeling anxious, now may not be the time to change. Compassionate reflections before big decisions will help us make the most of the coming year.
Modern living is addictive. Why we get caught in toxic loops of feeling, thinking and behaving, and how re-directing our attention can break the loop.
Do you feel used in your relationships? Understanding how fear and anxiety compel us to use others to feel better about ourselves.
Are you confusing kindness with indulgence? How listening to ourselves enables us to discover the true meaning of kindness.
Is your threat brain making you ill? How an essential life-preserving response can turn against us.
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