Rediscovering Love

How to identify behaviors that undermine love—and how to avoid drifting apart

Wounded Again: How Past Trauma Can Upend a Relationship

Eight steps to identify emerging trauma and how current partners can work together to transform it.

A New Kind of Loneliness

Even when they are able to interact with those they know well, many people still feel a different kind of entrapment in the midst of the pandemic.

Are You in Love with a Person Who Is Self-Destructing?

Partners of people living with addictions or other compulsions often hold on to moments of authentic connection and try to keep their partners sober as long as they can.

Boomerang Relationships

8 common reasons why some relationship seekers continually switch from one kind of partner to another.

4 Reasons Why Someone Might Pretend Not to Need Anyone

Here are the four most common reasons why people who crave love and affection cannot share those desires.

Can a Dying Love Be Reignited?

Is your relationship worth saving? Read about the seven variables and questions that contain crucial information that will help both of you make the decision.

Why Can’t I Get Over You?

Here are the 10 most common underlying reasons that keep people from healing from the loss of a love relationship.

11 Signs of a Failing Relationship

These drawn-out processes make the ultimate parting much harder to execute without suffering.

9 Qualities of the Most Successful Relationships

These beliefs and subsequent actions are the underlying strengths in relationships that not only survive but thrive over time.

How Angry Exes Seek Revenge

The bond between lovers gives each entry into the other's deepest vulnerabilities.

Dealing With Defensive Walls

One of the most common of those defensive mechanisms is to create an emotional wall that helps to separate the person from the event.

Owning Your Hidden Agendas

Read here to learn about the five steps to communication congruency.

Dispelling the Myth of Unconditional Love

Couples can become more authentic and appreciative by embracing the reality that relationships require sacrifices and gifts.

How Bitter Breakups Scar Future Relationships

Even when they know they are no longer going to be in a romantic relationship, they still care too much for each other to give up their friendship.

Sequential Relationships: A New Way to Love

The key to making a short-term relationship work is in loving the same way you would as if you were in it for the long haul.

6 Things People Say That Push Their Partners Away

These words of alienation can destroy a relationship.

Isolated Too Long?

As a result of this unnatural situation, re-entry dating anxiety is totally understandable and shared by many others. Here's how to deal with it.

8 Rules That Turn Rehashing Into Resolution

Everyone still has that defeated child inside. Words become irrelevant if reception is gone.

Divorced but Still Living Together?

Though there may be a handful of people who can successfully balance being both single and married, most cannot continue living that duality forever.

Don’t Let My Anger Drive You Away

To turn these painful interactions around, both partners must recognize their individual responsibility in the parts they play in these downward spirals.

Do Mismatched Relationships Work?

There are multiple examples of mismatched areas in intimate relationships, but read more about the 10 that show up the most often in my work with couples.