A loving relationship can be an oasis in uncertain times, but nurturing it requires attention, honesty, openness, vulnerability, and gratitude.
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From healing to thriving, the misfit’s way.
Some questions you may want to ask a therapist before committing to a course of therapy or coaching with them.
To access our unconscious feelings, buried desires, suppressed anger, and unprocessed trauma, we need to start listening to our dreams.
Are your parents anxious and paranoid? Are their emotions often out of control?
It may surprise you that this can happen, but people can indeed force you to process their unwanted psychic materials for them.
Sensitive, empathic, and gifted children are especially prone to becoming the emotional caretaker of the family.
If you have Quiet BPD, rather than act out, you act in. You do not show your inner turmoil, but direct the anger, hate, and blame toward yourself.
Intense people are fierce and passionate lovers. However, they face specific challenges due to their heightened sensitivity, speed of operation, and high level of intuition.
The more you blame yourself for not being able to rescue the situation or help them, the less healthy the relationship will be.
Some child-parent relationships are marred by anger and hurt. Here’s how you may be able to release the anger towards your parents and move on in life.
Complex trauma, borderline personality disorder, and structural dissociation.
At the end of your existential darkness, you will come to a new level of intimacy with life, with yourself, and with people in your life. You become a fuller human.
How do we come to terms with our wounds? How could we, despite being deeply injured, move past and beyond our history?
People say you are "too much." You think there is something wrong with you. Never did you consider that your intensity is pointing towards enormous creative potential.
Relieving ourselves of the impossible duty to rescue, help, or emotionally caretake anyone is the biggest gift to ourselves.
You are most likely a deep thinker, an intuitive feeler, and an extraordinary observer. You are prone to existential depression and anxiety, but you also know beauty and rapture.
The most profound pain comes not from being outside of the herd, but from disowning your true self.
Even after years of breaking free from home, minutes into a reunion can have us regressing back into feeling and behaving like a vulnerable child or a raging teenager again.
It may seem paradoxical at first glance, but the answer to healing from defensive non-attachment is actually to affirm our autonomy and resilience.
Do you feel like the world around you is unreal? Do you feel as though you are watching your life go by without being in it? Do you feel detached from your feelings and body?
Sometimes, we can't help but act out of unrealistic demands and projections. When our partner disappoints us, the situation provides valuable information.
Although the push-pull behaviors in our current relationships seem to be triggered by our partner, they are actually a result of old fears we carry from our childhood.
Children who are emotionally gifted are more likely to fall into specific roles in their families, and their woundings remain unspoken and unnoticed.
For some people, breaking away from their hometown and family of origin is not just a yearning, but a calling.
The rigid social standards are especially abrasive and coercive for the innately intense, sensitive and gifted women.
If we were to peel back, one layer after another, to the root of what now seems to be an unruly beast, we often find a tiny, fragile seed of deprived need.
If you have tried everything and nothing has worked, perhaps it is time we try a different way.
Some people are more intense than others. That intense child inside is waiting to be heard, seen, and embraced for who they are.
People with BPD traits are highly intuitive and perceptive. What was previously thought of as a genetic vulnerability may reflect an innate talent.
Some people feel more than others. They are often told that they are too much, too intense, too sensitive, too emotional, or too dramatic.
Imi Lo is a psychotherapist, art therapist, coach, and author of the book Emotional Intensity and Sensitivity. She specializes in emotional intensity, childhood trauma, Personality Disorders and Complex PTSD.