There are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. But that may short-change the future—which starts by our envisioning something better.
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Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.
You can fall into a relationship with a narcissist before realizing what’s happened. Grandiose and vulnerable narcissists know how to woo someone they think can fill their needs.
Suffering and grief are not things to be avoided or brushed aside. We cannot get “past” these feelings. We must move through them.
If you're eager to join the wave of The Great Resignation, make sure that you're bringing a new perspective to the next new job you take.
Life is messy and sometimes bad things do happen. Ignoring our pain and disappointments can compromise our health, wellbeing, and relationships.
Virtual connecting was dictated by the pandemic, but now that we're able to gather again, we need to put down the phone and focus on the folks in the room.
Whatever you have in life and wherever you are, you can find a reason to be grateful and doing so can change your life in very important ways.
Friendships can be the key to good health and longevity and it is totally natural to feel that you are "in synch" with your friends, neural imagery provides the evidence.
Ideally, people would always “practice what they preach” and we’d know a person through their actions, not just their virtual virtue signals.
When a friend behaves more like an adversary, you may need to bring the relationship to a close.
Empathy, as a stand-alone response to another's suffering, can be draining. Compassionate responses add action to emotion, and this nourishes us in ways that empathy alone cannot.
Narcissists often get their narcissistic "supply" by feeding off the people willing to give them the attention they desperately crave.
Narcissists have no limits when they are set on sabotaging the holidays for others.
Forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself by offering it to others.
Bipolar disorder can be difficult to accurately diagnose and still more challenging to manage once an accurate diagnosis is made. These suggestions can help.
We've witnessed too many tragedies lately, and these may be keeping us from enjoying events we used to love. Here's how we can take control of our fear before it takes control of our life.
If you believe others ask too much of you, perhaps you're not asking enough of them when it comes to honoring your boundaries.
There's a saying that living well is the best revenge, and that's certainly true when it comes to letting go of resentments and grudges.
There are many degrees of connection that our friendships may represent, and research shows that one type may be more important to well-being than many of us thought.
Not everyone who has a big ego or struggles with intimate relationships is a narcissist, but there are some key traits professionals use to make the diagnosis.
Don't let your System 1 brain make decisions about other people or circumstances before your System 2 brain is allowed to take a deeper look.
Personal and social identities are intertwined and work together to create a complex image of who we are in our own eyes and who we are in the eyes of others.
Falling for a narcissist can be easier than you'd expect, especially when they are offering what you think you might like to have in your life.
Mood swings may be normal, but explosive anger and irrational behaviors are not.
Dangerous partners can be sexy, but if you fall in love too quickly and too often with manipulative, controlling partners, you put your well-being at risk.
Has compassion for the wellbeing of others waned as the pandemic drags on? That's a normal reaction for folks who feel empathy and compassion.
If your new romantic partner still displays souvenirs of past relationships, this may reflect a tendency for “trophy hunting."
Erotic satisfaction, pragmatic relationship, enduring romance, and kinship with your family are just a few of our unique forms of love.
When “You Do You,” it positively affects almost every aspect of your life.
Do you feel cheated out of life by the pandemic and tired of following pandemic-related rules? This is normal, and so is wanting to take back control. But be kind.
How will your post-pandemic friendscape look? Is it time to do some careful weeding or are you ready to plant new relationships and enliven your social landscape?
Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D., is a licensed counselor and professor at Northern Illinois University.