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Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP
When we do not grow up with love, we need to learn it. Practicing curiosity, attention, compassion, and kindness makes loving oneself possible—and with it, loving others.
The near-universal use of smart-phones poses threats to our well-being. By using screens as distractions from our own needs and experiences, we risk losing our integrity.
Maintenance, commitments, and nourishment for the soul make claims on your time. Recognize their price-tags and allocate your attention and energy mindfully, consciously.
Contemplating the holiday season with dread or delight? Insights into your own personality and that of your traveling companion may help you expand your capacities to cope.
As fresh as when written in 2002, Adam Gopnik has given us an essay filled with observation, wisdom and curiosity about the role of imagination in a three-year-old's development.
Can you identify your family's style? How do you use time, space, energy? And why do you do it the way you do? Consider three styles of organization and their consequences.
Try considering your relationship as having a reality beyond the individuals who form it. Examine intimacy dynamics, boundaries, strengths, vulnerabilities, and healing.
Mystified by your partner's reactions or behaviors? Consider thinking about them through the lens of temperament. It can bring insight into why they respond as they do.
How well do you understand your own and a loved one's impulses, motives, behavior? Consider the nine dimensions of temperament and ways in which they affect us to provide insight.
When seasonal tasks and events overwhelm your natural spring optimism, take a deep breath and try these seven strategies for preventing or mitigating overwhelm.
Triggers that can lead dedicated lovers to betray a partner abound.
Valentine's Day prods us to question ways in which we express our love and through which others experience it. Here are some thoughts about keeping your love language fresh
I fulfilled a 2017 New Year's Resolution to myself and now reflect on three benefits of having made the commitment. Next year I will rely on knowing I have done it to do it again!
Often a couple faces an important change, perhaps of role, of home, or of responsibilities. They show love when they prepare for the transition and impact together. Here is how.
When change is thrust upon us by internal shifts, the contexts of our lives, or conditions in the larger world, we can show our love by ways we confront challenges together.
Childhood experiences with our caregivers and feelings of guilt, embarrassment, fear, and disappointment can influence the ways in which we receive others' expressions of love.
We can give a gift that costs money, time, or energy, to fulfill an expectation, provide delight, underscore our recognition of who a loved one is, or to recognize a bond.
After you identify a third-party threat to your couple, you can take several actions to limit current and prevent future damage. Many describe expressing love to the third-party.
Identify behaviors that undermine the integrity of your love relationship, create conflict between partners, or destabilize one member in a way that throws a couple into chaos.
A couple's relationship can be threatened by others. To minimize potential damage, explore conscious or unconscious motives that a third party might have.
Negative moments are inevitable, whether they come from outside ourselves, our perceptions, or our interpretations. Transforming them with creativity or kindness shows love.
Are you stumped about how to act or respond? Try an interior monologue to help you expose unconscious beliefs, pause, accept responsibility, and move on in a loving manner.
An imagery exercise can help us explore how we feel about a loved one and our connection to them.
Daily events can derail a relationship all too easily. Remember the reasons why you came together, appreciate the glue that maintains your bonds, and understand what threatens.
Addressing conflicts in a relationship is essential to maintaining trust that love can endure, emotion can flow freely, challenges can and will be addressed.
Meaningful rituals can show love by reflecting commitment, defining relationship boundaries, providing comfort, provoking memories, anchoring expectations, and providing pleasure.
Cultural and generational changes in how we approach food color how we use food to express love. We can choose to cook, or gather, organize or ignore opportunities for feeding.
Cultures vary in attitudes and beliefs about the role of food in nourishing body, mind and soul. As we express love through feeding, we must remain mindful of those differences.
Feeding others shows love by providing for, nourishing, seducing, or delighting.
Moments in our life that are unique and memorable bring opportunities to show love of our self and of another. They require us to slow down, allow the mystical, and be authentic.
Roni Beth Tower, PhD, a retired clinical, research and academic psychologist, earned a BA from Barnard (Religion), her PhD from Yale, and did postdoctoral work in epidemiology and public health at Yale Medical School.