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Discovering lasting contentment
Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev.
Whatever feelings we try to shut out only bang on the door harder.
Are you stuck playing an old role in an old friendship? Unpacking the "rules of the bond" can set you free.
Have you ever been stuck in a toxic thought loop? There is a way out.
When you can't know what you want to know, peace is still possible.
How do you stay together when you and your partner disagree about post-COVID life?
As you design your social calendar post-pandemic, be mindful of what you really want.
Deep and lasting emotional, mental, and spiritual harmony requires something different than just agreeing on a shared experience.
To be a real friend to someone who is suffering takes courage. Here are some strategies that may help.
Are you giving yourself away and letting others define you?
Do you keep thinking about the same problems, but don't know how to stop?
Does your partner's defensiveness trigger you? You don't have to take the bait.
When someone you know is committed to suffering...
Why "You Go Girl" and other cotton candy cliches might be teaching our girls to fail.
If you don't have anything helpful to say, maybe it's time to say nothing at all.
Is making other people like you more important than liking yourself?
Learn how to reframe the challenges of this year.
What do you really want from your conversation partner? Understanding your motives makes communication go smoother.
Are we allowed to just want to be here?
We all want to be known, without judgment. Why is it so hard?
Why judging ourselves for who we used to be is pointless and destructive.
Do you have to work hard to get your partner to listen? If so, a simple fix may change your world.
Is your well-being hitched to your partner's ability to change? If so, you can take the reins in your life right now.
Are you feeling anxious about returning to life out in the world? You can live a different life than you did pre-pandemic.
Strength and toughness are great skills, but it's our ability to relax and roll, when life gets hard, that's the real key to resilience and wellbeing.
Is your relationship not what you think it "should" be? Find peace with what it is.
Are you rushing yourself to find the positive in a difficult situation? Slow down and let the positive find you.
When the crisis doesn't end, how to keep going when you feel like you've got nothing left.
Sometimes we have to say "no" to a relationship, even when it's family.
Beware of your inner critic ... even in a crisis.
Parenting in a pandemic is not for the faint of heart. A few ideas to keep us sane and well.
Nancy Colier, LCSW, Rev., is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, and the author of Can’t Stop Thinking (2021), The Power of Off, and Inviting a Monkey to Tea.
Give up the desperate search for a happiness that can only exist somewhere else and discover the deepest well-beng that can only exist here.