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A new approach to living well
Timothy A Carey Ph.D.
A Personal Perspective: Keep dancing no matter what the tune. Contented living arises from the ability to stay the course; finding a way to dance to whatever music is playing.
Failing to achieve a goal often just means another goal is being satisfied instead.
Social groups that are characterized by shrinking opportunities for many and simultaneously burgeoning opportunities for a few are precariously imbalanced.
Whenever you are noticing being in the moment in the moment, you are not doing the activity in the moment in which you were previously engaged.
Just because you have a range of options does not necessarily mean you can choose equally between them.
The extent to which advice from another is precisely followed and routinely offers safe passage out of one’s existing turmoil is vastly overrated.
Keeping the difference very small between the way the world is and the way we want it to be is the secret to contentment.
Minds that have been engineered to control are designed to create and maintain a reconciled status.
Your mind has all the machinery it requires to create a solution that is genuinely your answer to your troubles.
Being yourself is about as special as digestion or thermoregulation or neuroplasticity. It’s going to happen anyway.
Whether we like it or not, help, if it is to be experienced as helpful, can only be defined by the one being helped, not the one providing the help.
It is well within our capabilities to create the conditions such that life for all our global citizens is a picnic.
Control needs to be celebrated, honored, applauded, supported, facilitated, bolstered, assisted, and promoted.
Just because we don’t understand why someone else is doing what they’re doing, that doesn’t mean that what they are doing is wrong.
In this time of no sense, you need to make the sense that makes sense to you.
Finding the sparkle in all your facets will lighten your life and brighten your outlook.
Everywhere you look, there are examples of people cooperating and contributing to the collective effort.
Will this teensiest of agents help us learn some of our biggest lessons?
Pretty much all of our activity can be understood as part of the process of goal achievement.
Being helpful means treating other people as they want to be treated.
Harmonious communities will emerge when people have what they require to live a life that is just right according to their own design.
“Schizophrenia” won’t be found in a petri dish.
Today, you are the realization of yesterday’s potential you.
It is madness to use methods to answer questions they were not designed to answer.
Even not controlling is control.
If defining normal is an insurmountable problem, then surely defining abnormal becomes impossible or nonsensical (or both).
The more a proposed change is unexpected and severe, and the more it interrupts or blocks a person’s goals, the more extremely the person will respond.
The fundamental problem with reliability is that it will not, and cannot, tell us what we want to know.
If you want to get to know someone, learn about their goals.
Understanding people and helping them with the problems they experience will not arise by allocating them to one or more DSM categories.
Tim Carey, Ph.D., is Director of the Institute for Global Health Research and Andrew Weiss Chair in Research on Global Health at the University of Global Health Equity in Rwanda.