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35 Questions to Help You Know Yourself or Others Better

Toward self-knowledge or deepening a relationship.

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Here are questions to help you to better know yourself or someone you'd like to know better.

If answering these yourself, you may want to say or write the first thing that pops to mind. Often, those are most important and less censored. Besides, with 35 questions, mulling over each question would take considerable time. If you're asking these questions of another person, it may be too much to ask them all. Perhaps pick just the few you're most interested in hearing the person answer.

What do people misunderstand about you?

What are you looking forward to?

What do you like best and least about yourself?

What’s the best and worst thing about your life?

What one thing you should keep telling yourself?

Is there a baby step that you’d like to take to improve your life, whether at work, in your personal life, or your habits?

Think of something you should change about yourself or your life but haven’t. Do you derive any benefit from not changing?

What’s one thing that makes you happy and one thing that makes you sad?

If you had a day to spend as you truly want, what would you do?

What’s a way that your parents have affected you?

What have you done that you’re proud of?

What have you done that you’re not proud of?

If you didn't care what anyone thought, do you have a deeply held aspiration?

What's something you're afraid is true about yourself?

Is there a way in which you should be bolder or more cautious?

Should you work harder or less hard?

Should you aim higher or lower, in your career, relationships, or avocation?

Should you be more of a straight arrow or less?

Is there anything you should reread or re-watch?

Should you focus more or less on your appearance?

What’s your best idea for improving yourself, others, or the world?

If you had 15 seconds to say whatever you want to a national audience, what would it be?

Do you have an idea for improving the world that you’re reluctant to tell people?

Who would you most like to spend an evening with?

What are you hoping for?

What is your greatest fear?

What do you really think about the work you do?

What do you really think about your employer?

What’s something you wish you could spend more time on at work?

Is there anything you’d like to do to improve your ethics?

If you were 20, what would you do similarly or differently regarding romantic relationships?

What one thing should you tell your parent that you haven't already? If s/he is dead or otherwise unavailable, what one thing do you wish you had told him or her?

What one thing should you ask your parent that you haven't already? If s/he is dead or otherwise unavailable, what one thing do you wish you had asked him or her?

What’s your definition of the life well-led?

If there were a wise God, what would s/he say to you?

The takeaway

So, what if anything have you learned about yourself that makes you want to do something different?

What if anything did you learn from asking these questions of another person? Does that suggest anything you want to do?

I read this aloud on YouTube. A related article: The Art of Questioning.

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