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Your Emotional Gas Tank

How job seekers can conserve enough energy to make it to the finish line.

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Every job seeker starts their search with a full tank of emotional gas. With each rejection or no response, some gas is burned.

This article should boost your chances of landing a job before running out of gas.

Gas Guzzlers

Externalizing responsibility

Yes, factors such as race, gender, age, and looks affect job prospects, but of course, focusing on those will drain your gas faster. Focus on what you can control: an appropriate job target and thorough, competent search, including tapping existing and new connections. Don't know what a good job search looks like? Check this out.

Excessive rumination

The philosophy of successful job seekers, indeed successful people in most endeavors, is Ready, FIRE! Aim! After just modest preparation, they try out things. That's because getting real-world feedback enables them to adjust, to aim better. Of course, try to take low-risk actions. For example, the job seeker who’s unsure whether their pitch will work should try it out on a friend or low-priority employer.

Confusion

You’ll guzzle gas if you’re unclear on how to spend your job search time optimally.

Applying for long-shot jobs

Even just-decent jobs often get many applications. Unless you meet at least most of the job’s requirements, don’t waste your time and emotional gas. If the employer wanted to hire someone who lacks half the requirements, s/he would have hired a friend.

Comparing yourself with others

Your gas drains when you compare yourself with peers or relatives who are doing better than you are. Focus on doing a good job in your job search moment by moment, maybe comparing your performance today with your performance yesterday, but that’s it.

Boosting Your Cruising Range

Of course, each time you get an interview or a job offer, gas is added to your emotional tank, but there are other ways to boost your cruising range:

Chart baby steps. List small daily goals: For example, make one networking reach-out and apply to one well-suited job. Chart whether you’ve achieved your daily goal, perhaps sharing that with a friend or Facebook friends.

Socialize. This kills three birds with one stone: It’s rejuvenating, it's a way to build your network, and it provides natural opportunities to ask for job leads.

Network the fun way. Many jobs are landed through one's network. Do network the way(s) you find pleasant: emailing, phoning, lunching, hiking, throwing a party, whatever. The least gas-guzzling networking method is the one you’ll gladly use.

Keep it simple. For example, instead of targeting dozens of employers, focus on your few first-choice organizations. Learn about them and then reach out to your real and LinkedIn friends to get leads there. Another example of keeping it simple: When applying for a job, spend no more than an hour adapting your standard resume and cover letter to fit the job opening. Spending much more is likely to guzzle more gas than is justified by the improvement in your chances of landing the job.

Take an interim job? If you’re unemployed and staring at the walls, that may well guzzle gas. Sometimes, taking an interim job, even as a retail clerk, barista, or Uber driver, gets you out meeting people, and building confidence, all while making a few pesos.

Learn something. Choose something career-boosting, which you could add to your resume. It especially boosts your cruising range if you're learning something you’d find fun or at least pleasant to study, and if you learned it your way: self-study with or without a tutor, or taking a highly rated in-person or online class.

Recreate. Job seekers needn't spend eight hours a day in their job search. If you’re unemployed, four is fine; if employed, one. Fill some of the rest of your time with activities you find fun: a sport, creative outlet, whatever. Do that and when you’re back in the saddle, you’ll find your cruising range has been extended.

Especially with the unemployment rate at a record low, the above tactics should help you make it to the finish line.

I read this aloud on YouTube.

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