How To Make Your Regular Life Feel Like a Vacation

When you are doing what you love, daily life can feel like a vacation.

Posted Dec 11, 2019

It may not happen often, or ever for some people, but when you are doing what you love, your daily life can feel like a vacation. When you’re working really hard on something you care about, your mind is free from trouble. You’re just too busy to fret.

At other times, you may get used to feeling bad, and that’s not a good thing. If you’re depressed or anxious, and you expect to feel that way, then that’s the filter through which you see your entire life. This is why it’s so important to remember how it feels when things are going really well, and how it feels to be engaged in what you’re doing, so you can tap into that energy when you need it.

Writing my last book was one of those rare zen-like experiences. The words just flowed, and as they did, a calm came over me and all my normal neurosis subsided. I actually questioned what was going on: How could the useless worry and low energy just disappear almost overnight?

When you are doing the right thing, at the right time, for the right reason, and with the right people, there really is no room for a bad mood to slip in. You’re not waiting for the other shoe to drop.

But the cool thing when you’re in a good-enough emotional space is that four or five shoes can drop—or even be thrown right at you—and not knock you off-balance. Maybe you hardly notice. It just feels so good to be engaged in something positive. The key is to find a way to keep it going or replicate it.

For some people, the closest they get to a vacation lifestyle is putting plastic pink flamingos in their backyard, but you can do so much better. It’s not about going anywhere. It’s about feeling like your life isn’t something you have to get away from. Instead, it’s something you desire to live to the fullest. It’s part attitude, part vision, and part self-determination.

So where to start? If you tend to get upset and moody when difficult challenges come up, as we all do at times, getting more engaged in life is the obvious cure. It’s an opportunity and a tool to help you overcome your discomfort. But there’s the rub: Being engaged in life may be the best cure for feeling down, but when you are down, it’s hard to get engaged, right?

Getting there isn’t a trick, although a little visualization won’t hurt. It’s a matter of taking small steps at first. It’s about taking any little break that comes your way and making the best of it. If you can’t get a door to open, then send an email—or go around whatever is blocking you. If your energy is low in the morning, make yourself exercise when you get up, or if you need to stop smoking, don’t light up until noon. Little adjustments like these can get you on the right path and feeling better sooner than later.

Accepting your life, looking for what is working, and making changes where you can is a much better way to spend your time than being grumpy, scared, or sad. Change may not happen overnight, but this is one component: Doing something you love needs to become at least a side hustle or a hobby, because every minute you are engaged in it is going to feel like a vacation. Now, where is that old guitar?