5 Ways to Get Your Attitude Right

Although you feel a little lost, answers are out there.

Posted Mar 23, 2012

When the chips are down, you may need to employ some additional tools to help you get through it all. Sometimes we forget about using our inner resources, as well as how easy it can be to reach out to someone who can help us. Here are some tips to put your mind in the right place and resolve almost any issue or problem.

  • Do your best to stay positive. This can take a lot of work, but if you give in to fear and negativity, you can end up staying mired in it for quite a while. And sometimes you can even work yourself into a depression or apathy. It is so important to see the glass as half full. If you can't do it in your head, then go to the sink and fill a glass to overflowing, so you can visualize the metaphor. I'm serious.
  • Use verbal affirmations. Tell yourself that you are going to be okay. Doing this helps calm the mind and reminds you that most likely things will turn out just fine. Ask yourself, have you survived worse? You've gotten this far, so what could possibly stop you now? When you feel the negative thoughts enter your mind, mentally cross them out. Try seeing that red circle with the line through it that means "no." This little exercise will help you focus on what you need to be doing right now.
  • Stop worrying. The trouble with worry is that it takes energy away from solving the problem. If you do get overly concerned about any issue, start figuring out what to do by writing down what's bothering you. Once you have a clear picture of what you are dealing with, you can begin gathering ideas to help you solve your dilemma.
  • Bring in some backup if you get stuck or can't seem to stop feeling sorry for yourself. There is no shame in calmly discussing what you are going through with a trusted family member or friend. If there really isn't anyone you care to talk with, there are a number of no or low fee counseling centers (many at colleges). I don't recommend pouring your troubles out to a bartender or hairdresser. Seeing a counselor is probably going to be less expensive, and you will feel a lot better for your time and effort.
  • If you find that you have fewer people in your life than you would like, try joining a support group. This can be a valuable tool to help you get your life back on track. To find one of the thousands of groups that exist, just Google "support groups" in your area. You'll find everything from A to Z.

Life can be really hard sometimes, but using these strategies can make a big difference in your world. Trust that you are here for a reason and, even though you feel a little lost at the moment, there are answers out there. Many are even closer than you think.

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