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Simple Ways to Be More Present in Our Everyday Lives

Mindfully navigating the everyday moments of our busy days.

Brad Waters
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Waking Mindfully

What is your routine when you wake up? Hit the alarm clock and jump out of bed? Press the snooze button for half an hour? Waking is an important part of the day—you wouldn’t have much of a day without it! Honor this time with a refreshing mindfulness practice that feels right for you.

For example, upon waking you might take several minutes to notice your breath coming into the day. Take a few slow and deep breaths and notice your senses starting to engage. Your sense of smell, your eyes adjusting to the morning light, the sensation of your body against the sheets, and the morning sounds of the world waking with you. Once you have experienced those sensations you might add some light stretches or wrist rolls and notice the energy starting to flow. Maybe you’re not a morning person, so this is a great way to ease into it.

Showering Mindfully

Is your next step to hop in the shower? Is this usually when you really start to wake up or do you stand there in zombie mode until the first cup of coffee? The shower is one of my favorite times to practice mindfulness because you can really focus on your body while the water drowns out the noise of the world outside.

In fact, the water alone can be your call to mindfulness. Notice the sensations that the water offers. Notice the temperature change from when the water first hits your skin to when it rolls off your feet and cools on the floor of the shower. Is your shower a gentle spray or a strong jet? Notice its pressure on your skin and pay attention to single drops. Can you follow a drop of water down the length of your body without looking at it? Then, what does your shower smell like?

Eating Mindfully

Ready for breakfast? Can you remember what you had for breakfast this morning? Better yet, do you remember chewing or remember what it tasted like? Sometimes we’re on auto-pilot when we eat, especially in the morning. Next time, no gobbling down that bagel without truly tasting it.

At your first meal remember the senses that you jump-started in the shower. Experience them again in new ways. An egg yolk isn’t just an egg yolk—it has color variations, it has a nearly invisible skin, and it behaves in different ways when you touch it, depending on how it was cooked.

As for chewing and tasting, that can be a whole practice in itself. Mindfulness teacher Jon Kabat-Zinn is known for introducing patients to the "Raisin Consciousness" meditation.

Whether it’s a raisin or a piece of toast, we can slowly experience all aspects of savoring our food. There are so many flavors and textures that go unnoticed when we eat mindlessly. What does that toast feel like between your fingers? Smell it. Notice the tiny holes and grains in the surface. Take a tiny bite and notice how it brushes against your tongue, crunches under your teeth, breaks apart and dissolves, and slides down your throat. It may take you half an hour just to eat that piece of toast! The point is to slow down and stay present with your food. To not take the food or the experience of eating for granted.

Driving Mindfully

When we drive mindlessly, scary things can happen. The least of which might be slamming on the brakes in the nick of time. It’s just so easy to get lost in the thoughts of our day’s obligations or concern ourselves with the lives of the drivers around us: “How dare he!” “What a jerk!” “Ooh, donuts!”

When we’re fully present in our vehicle, eyes on the road and minds on the drive, we are much safer and calmer drivers. As long as that other guy is driving safely, we don’t need to concern ourselves with his business. We can avoid bumper stickers and billboards because we know they don’t matter. We are not speeding, we are not digging our fingernails into the steering wheel, and our blood is not boiling with road rage.

We are letting all of that go by breathing deeply, staying present, and accepting that the outside world is outside of our control.

Did he just cut you off? Well, that moment has already passed. You can’t go back and prevent it and you won’t be teaching her a lesson by getting mad. Granted, this takes some practice. But if you’re a frustrated driver, you will have plenty of opportunity to do so.

Now you’re ready for the red-light meditation challenge. Let’s say you pull up to a red light that lasts 60 seconds. That’s one minute you can fill with deep breathing and awareness. Next time, consider it your 60-second timer. Red light starts the timer and green light stops it.

Kind of like a power nap, this is your power meditation. Just be present with your surroundings without judging them. And if you do get distracted, which you will, gently bring yourself back to the moment. Keep practicing. Let go of that frustration. You don’t have any control of other drivers but you have full control of how you will react (or not react) toward them. Your thoughts do not control you and you are not your thoughts.

This exercise was adapted by my former professor Tom Holmes at Western Michigan University from a story once told by a Zen Buddhist monk, Thich Nhat Hanh. Always one to add a humorous spin on a story, Dr. Holmes concluded the exercise by telling students: If you close your eyes for too long while stopped at the red light and lose track of time, don’t worry, the person behind you will surely let you know when the light has turned green! Just breathe.

Desk Meditation

Are you someone who takes power naps on your work break? Does that allow you any time to quickly eat lunch? Instead of a nap, how about practicing a short but restful mindfulness meditation? A paradox of mindfulness meditation is that it can be both restful and energizing at the same time.

When it’s break time, take five minutes to quiet your mind. This is now your time and you deserve to savor it. If you need to set some boundaries with co-workers and kindly tell them to scram, then I urge you to practice that too.

Close your office door, sit comfortably upright with your feet planted on the floor, and rest your hands on your lap. Take several deep and calming breaths. Focus on the sensation of the air coming into your nostrils and flowing deeply into your lungs. Don’t worry about breathing "properly," just breathe comfortably.

Upon exhaling, breathe out through your mouth noticing the air breeze by your lips. Notice any tension in your body, perhaps rolling your shoulders and breathing into that tension. Your feet are grounded on the floor, your lungs are full of fresh air, and your mind is clear of stress for this moment.

End of the Day

Now you can do the same practices in reverse after work. You can drive back home mindfully, eat dinner mindfully, and maybe you even shower or wash-up before changing into nightclothes. So how will you honor the day and set your intention for a restful sleep—free from thoughts about what you didn’t get finished today or what you have on your plate for tomorrow?

Have you ever heard of loving-kindness? It is a whole concept unto itself and it incorporates a wonderful meditation practice. I’d suggest books by Pema Chodron or Sharon Salzberg to learn more. Here’s a simple loving-kindness style meditation:

While lying in bed, before dozing off, just be mindful of the people in your life. Start with yourself and just give yourself a loving acknowledgment and appreciation. A simple message wishing yourself wellness and happiness.

Next, do the same for someone who is closest to you. This may be the partner lying next to you or a close family member. Think a kind thought of appreciation for what they mean to you and wish them peace and happiness.

Repeat this step again, this time for someone who you encountered during your day but perhaps aren’t as close to. Think of a co-worker or acquaintance.

Finally, try sending a genuine wish for wellness and happiness to someone who you are not close to. Perhaps this is someone with whom you had a disagreement or someone who annoyed you today. Wish them well and unburden yourself of negative energy before sleeping. Then breathe comfortably, slowly, and deeply before dozing off.

This loving-kindness exercise involves more intentional thought and structure than the other mindfulness practices, but it is still one in which you are present in the moment, aware of your reactions, and suspending your judgments. It is a clearing practice that brings about a peace, openness, and stillness as you get ready to sleep.

This post is an excerpt from the ebook Cultivating Your Everyday Mindfulness by Brad Waters, MSW.

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