Make Your Moment
An ABC news anchor provides advice for parents.
Posted Feb 06, 2020
Connecting with Dion Lim, author of Make Your Moment, was the perfect opportunity for me to ask her advice on her successful path. Specifically, I was interested in learning about her experience as a first-generation American, what advice she has for parents and younger people, and if she thought Apple TV’s The Morning Show was accurate from her experience reporting the news. Here we go:
1. What advice would you have given your younger self who was culturally different than your grade school peers?
Lim: Oh boy, there’s so much I would have told my younger self! As immigrants from Taiwan and Hong Kong, my mom and dad weren’t the best at communicating. There was a cultural barrier that prevented me from talking about serious issues and emotional things with them. They never said “I love you” or “I’m proud of you” whenever I accomplished something of note. My advice to all parents is to use your words of praise and honest love as much as possible.
Unfortunately, many years I spent chasing a sense of approval that I was good at something. Worthy of love. Acceptance from my peers. Worthy of feeling like I belonged and was doing something right. This ended up being something I sought out in the wrong places. So, if I could counsel my younger self today, I certainly would make sure she knew she was worthy, lovable and capable just as she is. She doesn’t need to do anything to get love but simply be herself — unique, different and quirky self.
2. What advice do you have for younger girls (or boys) that feel someone is not treating them correctly based on their gender?
Lim: It doesn’t take moving a mountain and changing laws or company/school policy to have an everlasting effect on the culture and those around you. Just the simple act of saying “hey, that’s not right — her name is Sarah, not little girl!” can be enough to set an example to everyone around you that you can’t be pushed around. It just might inspire others to speak up the next time they experience something unjust.
Lim: Mentors are everything — especially when you feel like there’s nobody at home or in your circle of friends who can relate or want to put in the effort to understand your experience and offer guidance.
Mentors aren’t necessarily just for adults either. They’re the people on your team whether it’s a therapist, neighbor, coach or well-known person in the field you seek to be part of. Dan Rather and I only had several exchanges via e-mail, but it was enough to inspire me to keep pushing ahead in my career when I was feeling at my lowest.
4. As a TV anchor/news reporter, did you think Apple TV’s “The Morning Show” correctly depicted the competition in the newsroom?
Lim: I haven’t watched The Morning Show yet, but from all the people who have told me about it (everyone loves talking about news programs with news people) and from what I’ve read about it online it’s 1000% accurate whether we want to admit it or not.
There are only a handful of anchor spots at each television station across the country. And there are only three or four stations per market. So, there aren’t a lot of jobs available. Factor in egos and being in the public eye constantly and people telling you they like your work, it’s not hard for some to get a big head! What happens when someone with a big ego feels threatened? It’s not pretty.
It’s too bad because I really do believe in working harmoniously and that, like a former mentor taught me, we all have strengths to bring to the table.
Lim, D. (2020). Make Your Moment. New York, NY: McGraw-Hill.