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Constructive Wallowing

How to beat bad feelings by letting yourself have them

Loneliness
Venting Isn’t Therapy

Tina Gilbertson LPC on December 15, 2021

Venting can feel good, but the relief rarely lasts. What a therapist does in response to your emotions makes all the difference when it comes to healing.

Venting can feel good, but the relief rarely lasts. What a therapist does in response to your emotions makes all the difference when it comes to healing.

Therapy
Insight Is Not Enough

Tina Gilbertson LPC on November 23, 2021

You’ve been to therapy. You understand your feelings and behavior. Does that mean you’re done?

You’ve been to therapy. You understand your feelings and behavior. Does that mean you’re done?

Empathy
Why Are Some People Such Jerks?

Tina Gilbertson LPC on October 19, 2021

You might think there are as many reasons for bad behavior as there are personalities on the planet. But the root causes of most antisocial behavior may be few.

You might think there are as many reasons for bad behavior as there are personalities on the planet. But the root causes of most antisocial behavior may be few.

Child Development
Are You Living in the Past?

Tina Gilbertson LPC on August 23, 2021

Standing up for yourself is necessary sometimes. But if you had hurtful experiences in childhood, you may be mistaking today for yesterday.

Standing up for yourself is necessary sometimes. But if you had hurtful experiences in childhood, you may be mistaking today for yesterday.

Embarrassment
How to Teach Someone a Lesson

Tina Gilbertson LPC on July 21, 2021

Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to teach someone a lesson, and have them actually learn it? Here’s why they'll never see the error of their ways.

Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to teach someone a lesson, and have them actually learn it? Here’s why they'll never see the error of their ways.

Embarrassment
How to Get Over Social Embarrassment

Tina Gilbertson LPC on May 12, 2021

The party may be over, but the shame is just beginning. If you’re obsessing about an incident, take yourself through these three steps.

The party may be over, but the shame is just beginning. If you’re obsessing about an incident, take yourself through these three steps.

Motivation
Never Call a Child Selfish

Tina Gilbertson LPC on January 19, 2021

Did your parents ever call you selfish when you were a child? Here’s why that probably did some damage, and what one can do to teach unselfish behavior to children.

Did your parents ever call you selfish when you were a child? Here’s why that probably did some damage, and what one can do to teach unselfish behavior to children.

Identity
How to Be Yourself in a Relationship

Tina Gilbertson LPC on November 28, 2020

If you’re someone who feels like you lose yourself whenever you’re in a relationship, here are some tips to stay grounded.

If you’re someone who feels like you lose yourself whenever you’re in a relationship, here are some tips to stay grounded.

Relationships
Stop Testing Your Partner

Tina Gilbertson LPC on October 19, 2020

Are you testing your partner without realizing it? If so, you could be putting you both in a difficult position, and creating the very problems you fear.

Are you testing your partner without realizing it? If so, you could be putting you both in a difficult position, and creating the very problems you fear.

Relationships
Feeling Insecure in Your Relationship?

Tina Gilbertson LPC on September 19, 2020

When it seems like your partner might leave you any day, it’s natural to feel insecure. But those feelings aren’t always based in reality.

When it seems like your partner might leave you any day, it’s natural to feel insecure. But those feelings aren’t always based in reality.

Gender
How to Know If Your Requests Are Reasonable

Tina Gilbertson LPC on August 19, 2020

Is it reasonable to ask your husband to make you dinner? Maybe. Just about any request is OK, depending on what’s behind it.

Is it reasonable to ask your husband to make you dinner? Maybe. Just about any request is OK, depending on what’s behind it.

Motivation
Is Being Passive Ruining Your Life?

Tina Gilbertson LPC on July 22, 2020

Especially in uncertain times, it’s easy to just sit back and see what happens. But taking a passive approach to life is not necessarily your best bet.

Especially in uncertain times, it’s easy to just sit back and see what happens. But taking a passive approach to life is not necessarily your best bet.

Grief
When Old Emotions Won’t Go Away

Tina Gilbertson LPC on June 20, 2020

If you’re carrying the weight of old emotions from things that happened years ago, it may be time to do some de-cluttering.

If you’re carrying the weight of old emotions from things that happened years ago, it may be time to do some de-cluttering.

Career
When Self-Care Doesn’t Work

Tina Gilbertson LPC on May 25, 2020

Self-care is important, but it doesn’t always work. Find out what may be going wrong in your case, and how to address it so you can feel better sooner.

Self-care is important, but it doesn’t always work. Find out what may be going wrong in your case, and how to address it so you can feel better sooner.