Our eyes, gestures, and tone bring us together in a more profound way than words alone. It’s why we look hopefully toward the return of in-person, face-to-face connection.
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Why some relationships work—and others don't
Amie M. Gordon, Ph.D.
Are you looking for a relationship quality booster? Try paying attention to absence of conflict in your relationships--sometimes what's missing matters as much as what is there.
Fair division of labor is considered key to a successful marriage. But what determines fairness?
The pandemic is affecting every aspect of our lives. As a relationships researcher, I can’t help but wonder about all the ways this global event is impacting our relationships.
Experiences of awe boost health and well-being. Here are five ways to get your daily dose of awe, even when you're stuck inside the house.
Is all this family time too much of a good thing? Here are nine evidence-based tips for how not to kill your family during a lockdown.
Life's changed quickly over the past few weeks. Here is my experience with the psychological biases that shape our responses to disasters.
Research suggests not all plans are created equal. For short-term goals, backward planning may be more effective.
Feel tired during the day? Need caffeine to stay alert? Here are tips from the sleep experts for getting better sleep.
Does your partner disturb your sleep? Research shows how couples can sleep better together, and when a "sleep divorce" might be the answer.
Have high expectations for your relationship? They might mean that you're missing out on chances to feel grateful.
Are sacrifices in your relationship going unnoticed? Research suggests everyday sacrifices are missed about half the time, and your relationship may be worse for it.
Is one grateful partner enough to make a relationship work? Recent research suggests the answer may be no.
People who have more sex feel more positively about their spouses without even knowing it.
Adults in the US may have more sex than nearly every other country (except France), but is more always better? Research suggests maybe not.
Want to feel more satisfied with your job? Sex with your spouse helps.
Romantic partners often share a bed, and researchers have found links between people’s sleep habits and their relationship experiences.
From stress-buffering to getting you active, here are four new findings that teach us a little more about the how and why of gratitude.
Relationships are good for our health, until they're not. According to a recent review of the literature, here are five ways that our most intimate relationships affect our health.
Fighting about the same issue over and over again? Research suggests several ways you can gain perspective and get past this issue.
Research suggests that giving a gift may feel even better than receiving one.
Could your relationship use a boost? Here are 3 simple, science-based strategies you can use this month to improve your relationship.
Some of the human tendencies that help keep us alive also have a negative side, here are 5 tips for combating our tendencies to adapt, focus on the bad, and fail at forecasting.
Some of the human tendencies that help keep us alive also have a negative side. making it harder for us to focus on the good.
Expressing gratitude is an instant mood boost. Science explains how to overcome the prediction errors that prevent us from truly saying thanks.
Conflict is inevitable, but a blow-up, drag-out fight doesn't have to be. Answer these 5 simple questions to figure out when your fights will be most productive.
“Never go to bed angry” might be one of the worst pieces of old-time wisdom. Fatigue, hunger, and stress may be the real culprits behind some of your worst fights.
Sometimes being nice gets you nowhere. When your partner has a behavior you really need them to change and they just won’t listen, research suggests it may be time to get tough.
Recent research suggests we underestimate the role of random chance in our lives. Is the success or failure of our relationships determined by how lucky we get?
Do we overestimate the role of talent in success? Recent research suggests success is more about getting lucky than being talented.
Raise your hand if you’ve spent any time in the past month dreaming about a different life. Research suggests you change your focus before trading it all in.
Amie M. Gordon, Ph.D., is a social psychologist at the University of Michigan whose research focuses on interpersonal relationships and well-being.