Verified by 
With parents having their heads in the sand and abstinence-only sex education ruling the day, the primary source of sex education for today's young has become porn on the Internet.
Until now, the people who have been addressing this less-than-opitmal situation are anti-porn purity crusaders and sex addiction aficionados, with their usual fear-based and shame-creating thunder. (Let's see... porn is more addictive than crack cocaine, it's the cause of half of all divorces, it's resulting in the end of masculinity, and it's created a generation of porn zombies who only emerge from their computer stroke-fests long enough to stock up on energy drinks and lotion.)
My sense is that technological leaps have allowed 11-year-olds to watch porn while their parents remain terrified to engage them in anything that even begins to approach an open and honest conversation about sex and lovemaking. Porn is not going anywhere, so the need is greater than ever to talk to our young about the differences between sex in real life versus sex in porn.
I also think the only effective way to do this is on the Internet, where the flavors of the day are YouTube and Facebook. The problem is that these are mediums of young people who still appreciate seeing each other light their farts.
The disparity in my age does not make me the most likely of YouTube candidates. On the other hand, when I watch the various twenty-somethings try to do sex education, it becomes oh so apparent that thirty years of experience is not such a bad thing! And so I just taped my first YouTube video on porn titled: 5 Things to Learn about Lovemaking from Porn. It's what happens when someone who has written a 992-page book on sex tries to handle an immensely complicated subject in only 5 minutes!
Here are 3 of my 5 "things," with a "5 More Things"sequel to soon follow:
Sensory Distortion
Sensory Distortion: In porn, the focus is almost always on breasts or genitals. Yet in real-life lovemaking, you rarely stare at your partner's brightly lit crotch for long periods of time. It can be helpful to help porn watchers with little real-life experience understand that lovemaking is a full-body experience--one that's going to be very different from how it's presented in porn.
Size Distortion
Size Distortion: There is no room for average-size penises in porn. Yet today--when few males shower together after PE or sports--they often get their first view of other penises when they watch porn. This might cause them to feel that porn-size is average. And for a lot of young women, the first erections they ever see are in porn. In this part of the video, I show how the "smaller" erection is closer to average, while the larger erection is closer to porn-size. (Thanks to Bad Dragon toys for providing these blue bad boys!)
Oral Sex Distortion: If all you'd ever seen is porn, you'd think that women who are giving oral sex like it when a man grabs their head and rams his penis down their throats. This offers sex educators a great opportunity to encourage people to ask their partner about the things that she or he likes and dislikes when giving and receiving oral sex.
If you would like to see my YouTube video, click here.
