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Anger in the Age of Entitlement

Cleaning up emotional pollution

Relationships
When Love Turns to Contempt

Steven Stosny, Ph.D. on September 13, 2024

Once contempt becomes part of a person’s defense system, change in the partner’s behavior will not alter it, even if the partner’s earlier behavior set it off.

Once contempt becomes part of a person’s defense system, change in the partner’s behavior will not alter it, even if the partner’s earlier behavior set it off.

Relationships
How to Get the Partner You Most Want to Have

Steven Stosny, Ph.D. on August 23, 2024

The hard part of getting the partner you most want to have is figuring out what kind of partner you most want to be. Here’s an experiment that might help.

The hard part of getting the partner you most want to have is figuring out what kind of partner you most want to be. Here’s an experiment that might help.

Relationships
Core Vulnerabilities in Love

Steven Stosny, Ph.D. on August 16, 2024

We rarely experience core vulnerabilities due to entrenched avoidance habits. Yet they form continual shadows in implicit judgments and behavior, particularly under stress.

We rarely experience core vulnerabilities due to entrenched avoidance habits. Yet they form continual shadows in implicit judgments and behavior, particularly under stress.

Self-Help
A Case of Drilling Down on Feelings

Steven Stosny, Ph.D. on August 9, 2024

Emotional pain, and the depression that usually follows it, offer a period of reevaluation and opportunities for growth.

Emotional pain, and the depression that usually follows it, offer a period of reevaluation and opportunities for growth.

Bias
The Danger of Cognitive Biases in Relationships

Steven Stosny, Ph.D. on July 12, 2024

Biases and prejudices are so integral to the way the brain organizes information that it’s impossible to be completely free of them. But we can reduce their negative effects.

Biases and prejudices are so integral to the way the brain organizes information that it’s impossible to be completely free of them. But we can reduce their negative effects.

Therapy
Are You Stuck in Therapy?

Steven Stosny, Ph.D. on July 5, 2024

Gains from therapy often reach a plateau, with diminishing returns if continued beyond that point.

Gains from therapy often reach a plateau, with diminishing returns if continued beyond that point.

Self-Help
More Ways to Get Emotionally Stuck

Steven Stosny, Ph.D. on May 24, 2024

If you feel stuck in victim identity, develop a healing identity fueled by the desire to improve your life. Appreciate your strengths, resilience, and capacity to heal your hurt.

If you feel stuck in victim identity, develop a healing identity fueled by the desire to improve your life. Appreciate your strengths, resilience, and capacity to heal your hurt.