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The best sex ever
Michael Castleman M.A.
Sex comes in three varieties: procreative, relationship-affirming, or recreational. Since Biblical times, one has been very controversial.
A small but growing research literature shows that around two-thirds of people call marijuana sex-enhancing. Two recent studies agree.
Since the pandemic, lingerie sales have soared—especially the raciest items.
Many men are not committed to dental health. Big mistake. Chronic gum disease is a newly identified risk factor for erection trouble.
Why is almost one-third of the porn audience female? Some watch to satisfy curiosity, others due to feminism, lust, or for sexual spice. But most watch for another reason.
School-based sex education classes fail to reduce teen pregnancies and STIs. Instead, another approach succeeds: parents discussing sex with their kids.
Only half of women mention sexual pain to male lovers. They may believe sex is about “his needs, not mine.” Gentlemen, for great sex, understand women's sexual pain, and ask about it.
Special touch-sensitive C-tactile nerves can help men last longer in bed, while simultaneously enhancing women's arousal and interest in sex.
A recent study describes how satisfied seniors maintain high-quality lovemaking. Their strategies apply to lovers of all ages.
Erectile dysfunction doesn’t just happen. It has 22 risk factors. But many people can't name any, and few know more than one or two. You?
Research finds that healthy female genitalia vary greatly in appearance.
Surgery to increase penis size or treat erectile dysfunction has been reported to cause unsightly genital deformities and other potentially serious problems.
Since 1992, the proportion of celibate young adults has almost tripled, and American adults of all ages report less partner sex.
The drugs prescribed to treat premature ejaculation help only a minority of men, and most quit taking them within a year.
Why do some older women pursue relationships with significantly younger men? According to a recent study, a key reason is better sex.
Sterilization is the nation's most popular method of birth control. Male sterilization is quicker, cheaper, and easier, but women get sterilized more often than men.
Most alleged sex addicts aren’t addicted or out of control, just misinformed about the enormous range of normal sexuality.
Threesomes, swinging, group sex, polyamory—participation in consensual non-monogamy is growing, especially among young adults.
Most widows want to return to partner lovemaking. But friends and family often wag fingers. Joan Price, a prominent expert on senior sex, offers help for sex after grieving.
The myth is that men don’t care if women have orgasms. Actually, men care a great deal.
Start solo, use lube, and carefully coach.
Chronic desire differences are long-term couples' number-one cause of sexual distress. To resolve them happily, sex therapists recommend scheduling sex dates in advance.
Part 1: Desire differences are the number one cause of sexual exasperation in long-term couples.
Critics of pornography charge that watching porn destroys men’s erections. But the best research shows that porn has no significant impact.
Many wonder if those involved in sexual bondage, discipline, and sado-masochism are mentally healthy. BDSM players are as sexually and mentally healthy as the general population.
Contrary to popular belief and sports folklore, sex before athletic contests doesn’t hurt performance. It may actually help.
Combining sex and alcohol produces some benefits—and many possibly serious risks
Disabilities never preclude great sex. Despite myths that disabled people are not sexual and not interested in lovemaking, when there's a will, there’s always a way
Throughout the lifespan, premature ejaculation is men’s #1 sex problem. Fortunately, it’s usually easy to cure using self-help or professional sex therapy.
Many people have regrets about how they lost their virginity. How to enjoy your first time.
Michael Castleman, M.A., is a San Francisco-based journalist. He has written about sexuality for 36 years.
My background is in journalism, reporting on sex research, which I've done for more than 3 decades. As a result, my blog tends to focus on research results and their implications for enhancing lovemaking.