Handling Oddball Co-Workers
How understanding personality disorders can get you out of conflict
in the office.
By Neil Parmar published July 1, 2004 - last reviewed on June 9, 2016
The office can be a hot spot for personality conflicts. Next time you clash with a controlling boss or his rude underling, remember the problem may not be you. As many as 5 to 10 percent of workers may suffer from a personality disorder, according to research presented at the annual meeting of the American Psychiatric Association. And while people tend to choose careers based on the type of personality they have, that very career might reinforce their off-putting traits and fuel problems in the workplace. Here are the four most common types of personality disorders you're likely to bump into near the water cooler.
The Loner
Personality Type: Avoidant
They Likely...
- hide inside their cubicles.
- dread rejection.
- chitchat mostly via e-mail.
- prefer tasks to people.
May hold a job as a...
- computer programmer
- professor
How to keep your cool: "Help them come out of their shell by addressing their concerns.Try looking at a situation from their perspective."–Ben Dattner, adjunct psychology professor, New York University
The Mouse
Personality Type: Dependent
They Likely...
- bend over backward to please others.
- cry at criticism.
- need too much help.
May hold a job as a...
- supervisor's sidekick
How to keep your cool: "Don t baby them. Subtly boost their self-confidence by assigning independent projects."–Per Vaglum, psychiatry professor, University of Oslo
The Nitpicker
Personality Type: Compulsive
They Likely...
- obsess over details.
- plan but rarely complete tasks.
- are never satisfied.
May hold a job as a...
- librarian
- event planner
How to keep your cool: "Try laughing. Don t let them get under your skin. And be thankful that you re not a perfectionist."–David Bernstein, associate psychology professor, Fordham University
The Office Stud
Personality Type: Narcissistic
They Likely...
- fantasize about unlimited success.
- carry pocket mirrors.
- boss you around.
May hold a job as a...
- soldier
- police officer
How to keep your cool: "Respect orders but stand your ground. Pushovers are easily trampled. "–Paul Links, psychiatry professor, University of Toronto