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People Pleasing Test

20 Questions
3 Minutes

Are you a people-pleaser?

A people-pleaser craves validation and reassurance and is afraid to disappoint others because they worry about being rejected or abandoned. They may go to great lengths to help others, even when they're not asked, and they often take the blame, even for things that weren't their fault. See where you fall on the people-pleasing scale.

Using the key below, answer the questions based on how strongly you agree or disagree with the statement.

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Strongly Agree
Agree
1. I need to meet other people's expectations.
Disagree
Agree
2. I agree with others just to keep the peace.
Disagree
Agree
3. I am afraid to say no to people.
Disagree
Agree
4. I rarely share my opinions because I don't want to upset anyone
Disagree
Agree
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5. I'm not afraid to make decisions that might make others unhappy.
Disagree
Agree
6. I put the needs of others before my own.
Disagree
Agree
7. Even if something isn’t my fault, I apologize anyway.
Disagree
Agree
8. I feel responsible for the happiness of the people in my life.
Disagree
Agree
9. I want to get the approval of others.
Disagree
Agree
10. I tend to go with the flow, even if it makes me feel uneasy.
Disagree
Agree
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11. I try to avoid anyone's disapproval.
Disagree
Agree
12. Standing up for myself can be hard.
Disagree
Agree
13. I need the validation of others.
Disagree
Agree
14. I make compromises so that other people are happy.
Disagree
Agree
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15. I rarely hide how I feel, even if it might be unpopular.
Disagree
Agree
16. I help other people, even when they do not ask for it.
Disagree
Agree
17. I feel terrible when another person is unhappy with a decision I've made.
Disagree
Agree
18. I rarely disagree with others; I'd rather be liked.
Disagree
Agree
19. I often seek reassurance from others.
Disagree
Agree
20. I rarely take on responsibilities that are not mine.
Disagree
Agree

Who Is This Test For?

This test is for anyone who may struggle with people-pleasing or wants to learn more about their approach to life. This test is not intended to be diagnostic and is designed for adults. 

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How to Get Help

If you would like to improve your approach to life or if you think you need help with your people-pleasing nature, you may want to contact a mental health professional. You can find someone in the Psychology Today Therapy Directory. 

Sources

Crowne, Marlowe. The Marlowe-Crowne Social Desirability Scale (MC-SDS).

Rathus. The Rathus Assertiveness Schedule (RAS).

C. De Young, et al. The Big Five Aspects Scale.