Mastering the Art of Romantic Connection

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"Too often we underestimate the power of touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." — Leo Buscaglia

Linda: Some people are more naturally inclined to devote time and energy to mastering the art of romantic connection. Others are more inclined to place their attention elsewhere. Almost all of us have a learning deficit in this area due to the fact that positive models in the art of connection are so rare. Once we understand the extraordinary benefits that accompany this essential life skill, the motivation to devote time and energy to become competent in this area accelerates.

Let’s consider the benefits of mastering this art:

1. Feeling a sense of belonging
2. Increasing self-confidence
3. Taking delight in a sense of alignment and harmony
4. Reducing fear and anxiety
5. Having curiosity and wonder about self and other
6. Enjoying a positive outlook
7. Experiencing strong energy and passion
8. Engaging in the pursuit of joint goals
9. Developing skills to achieve excellence
10. Liberating creativity
11. Building a solid, sturdy trust
12. Participating in enthusiastic collaboration
13. Inspiring each other to risk and grow
14. Unleashing creativity
15. Moving through transitions with ease
16. Bringing out the best in each other
17. Understanding each other's assumptions, beliefs, expectations, and values
18. Comforting each other through losses and disappointments
19. Cooperating to solve problems
20. Accepting life’s difficulties more easily because we don't feel so alone
21. Translating visions into realities
22. Opening up communication
23. Welcoming the exchange of feedback
24. Lowering stress
25. Harnessing the rapport to experience physical affection and sexual pleasure
26. Opening to the influence of the trusted other
27. Understanding others and feeling understood
28. Taking pleasure in feeling appreciated for our unique gifts
29. Debating differences with a spirit of goodwill
30. Becoming a better listener and developing empathy
31. Cultivating humility to become a life-long learner
32. Growing in generosity to be able to give more to others
33. Lightening our load by sharing responsibilities
34. Benefiting materially since when operating as a team, we make more money
35. Removing our image to be authentic
36. Living in appreciation and gratitude, with a sense that life is good.
37. Increasing the ability to be fully present
38. Deepening compassion for self and others
39. Having a joint sense of purpose
40. Increasing health and happiness, which slows down the aging process

Making our romantic connection a high priority is a great gift to ourselves and to our partner. When we do so, we make spending quality time together our highest priority. Then we put work and other concerns aside on a regular basis to show our genuine care with face-to-face communication. We put aside all electronic devices, (laptops, cellphones, and tablets) to be fully present.

Small but consistent adjustments can add up to deep fulfillment. When we consider the massive amount of benefits from focusing our attention on developing our skill in this area, it becomes obvious to us where we want to focus our precious life energy. Mastering the art of romantic connection has, as Leo Buscaglia says, “the potential to turn life around."

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