Photo of Dr Debbie Lovell, Psychologist in London, England
Dr Debbie Lovell
Psychologist, DCounsPsych, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
London W1G
I am one of a small number of practitioners in the UK who is dually qualified as a chartered psychologist and a sex therapist. My clients may seek help for a specific sexual difficulty such as desire or arousal concerns; or may experience broader distress which also manifests in their sexual and relational world such as low self esteem or perfectionism.
I am one of a small number of practitioners in the UK who is dually qualified as a chartered psychologist and a sex therapist. My clients may seek help for a specific sexual difficulty such as desire or arousal concerns; or may experience broader distress which also manifests in their sexual and relational world such as low self esteem or perfectionism.
020 3909 9821 View 020 3909 9821
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London Clinic for Sex and Relationship Therapy
Psychotherapist, MUKCP
Verified Verified
London W1T
The London Clinic for Sex and Relationship Therapy (LCSRT) offers a holistic approach to sexual and relationship wellness combining online classes with personalised therapeutic programmes. Whether it’s trauma, anxiety, painful sex, erectile dysfunction, compulsive sexual behaviour, gender identity, body image, your relationship to food, or family/parenting difficulties, we’re here for you. Helping you thrive whatever your sex or relationship difficulties.
The London Clinic for Sex and Relationship Therapy (LCSRT) offers a holistic approach to sexual and relationship wellness combining online classes with personalised therapeutic programmes. Whether it’s trauma, anxiety, painful sex, erectile dysfunction, compulsive sexual behaviour, gender identity, body image, your relationship to food, or family/parenting difficulties, we’re here for you. Helping you thrive whatever your sex or relationship difficulties.
020 4538 6508 View 020 4538 6508
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Cássia Testa Gallas Bhattacharya
Verified Verified
London SE1  (Online Only)
I help clients to deal with anxiety, conflict in the relationship, vaginismus, erectile dysfunction, rapid/delayed ejaculation, pain during sex, fear of sex, discomfort around sexual practices, sexual trauma, lack of pleasure during sex, communication issues, desire to change the dynamics of the relationship, change in circumstance, and more.
Hi! I believe everyone has the right for decent relationships (with friends, family and partners) as it has tremendous influence in their quality of life. Many things influence the way people behave in relationships - I am here to help you explore what might be getting in the way of you getting the relationships you want. I work with all sorts of issues in relationships and sexual difficulties, and will offer you a non-judgmental environment while facilitating the therapeutic process for self-discovery and actualisation.
I help clients to deal with anxiety, conflict in the relationship, vaginismus, erectile dysfunction, rapid/delayed ejaculation, pain during sex, fear of sex, discomfort around sexual practices, sexual trauma, lack of pleasure during sex, communication issues, desire to change the dynamics of the relationship, change in circumstance, and more.
Hi! I believe everyone has the right for decent relationships (with friends, family and partners) as it has tremendous influence in their quality of life. Many things influence the way people behave in relationships - I am here to help you explore what might be getting in the way of you getting the relationships you want. I work with all sorts of issues in relationships and sexual difficulties, and will offer you a non-judgmental environment while facilitating the therapeutic process for self-discovery and actualisation.
020 8059 2130 View 020 8059 2130
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Rosalind Simpson
Psychotherapist, COSRT Accred
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
London N16
I work with individuals and couples. Although I specialise in relationship issues including sex and sexuality, I have a vast experience in most other issues including anxiety and depression, stress, trauma and PTSD, phobias and panic, low self esteem and social anxiety, loneliness and loss. I am a sex positive therapist and open to whatever your identification or orientation including kink, polyamory and consensual BDSM. I can help you achieve your goals and reach your full potential. Please contact me for a free 15 minute Zoom or telephone conversation to see if you think you would like working with me or one of my associates.
I work with individuals and couples. Although I specialise in relationship issues including sex and sexuality, I have a vast experience in most other issues including anxiety and depression, stress, trauma and PTSD, phobias and panic, low self esteem and social anxiety, loneliness and loss. I am a sex positive therapist and open to whatever your identification or orientation including kink, polyamory and consensual BDSM. I can help you achieve your goals and reach your full potential. Please contact me for a free 15 minute Zoom or telephone conversation to see if you think you would like working with me or one of my associates.
020 3856 8640 View 020 3856 8640
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Dr Christopher Cartner
Psychologist, DCounsPsych, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
London W8
I am a gay therapist, providing a safe non-judgemental space for those of all sexualities. I have a background in both the NHS and private sector. I have worked with people experiencing depression, stress, anxiety, trauma and concerns with sexuality and sexual health. I have worked with those who have experienced trauma across the lifespan, meaning I have worked with people who have experienced trauma, and traumatic incidences, in both adult life and childhood. I specialise in sexuality, chemsex, trauma, sexual health and LGBT+ affirmative therapy. More details of my work experience can be found on my website.
I am a gay therapist, providing a safe non-judgemental space for those of all sexualities. I have a background in both the NHS and private sector. I have worked with people experiencing depression, stress, anxiety, trauma and concerns with sexuality and sexual health. I have worked with those who have experienced trauma across the lifespan, meaning I have worked with people who have experienced trauma, and traumatic incidences, in both adult life and childhood. I specialise in sexuality, chemsex, trauma, sexual health and LGBT+ affirmative therapy. More details of my work experience can be found on my website.
020 3872 2472 View 020 3872 2472
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David Piner
Psychotherapist, MA, MBACP
Verified Verified
London W1W
I am a specialist couple, relationship and psychosexual psychotherapist, here you if you are struggling with a couple, relationship, or sexual issue. I offer individual and couples specialist relationship, couples and psychosexual therapy. I have over 17 years of experience working with clients. This is all done within a confidential and non-judgmental space. I am a qualified and accredited sex and relationship therapist. As Associate Director of the London Diploma in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy and Course Director of the Naos Institute's Advanced Couples Diploma, I help train the next generation of specialist therapists.
I am a specialist couple, relationship and psychosexual psychotherapist, here you if you are struggling with a couple, relationship, or sexual issue. I offer individual and couples specialist relationship, couples and psychosexual therapy. I have over 17 years of experience working with clients. This is all done within a confidential and non-judgmental space. I am a qualified and accredited sex and relationship therapist. As Associate Director of the London Diploma in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy and Course Director of the Naos Institute's Advanced Couples Diploma, I help train the next generation of specialist therapists.
023 8214 8557 View 023 8214 8557
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Rachel Seymour
Psychotherapist, MA, COSRT General
Verified Verified
London SE1
Hi, I'm Rachel. I am a psychosexual and relationship therapist. I work with people from all backgrounds and walks of life, although most often I work with clients who fall into the category of gender, sexuality or relationship diverse (GSRD), whether that means someone is kinky, polyamorous, a sex worker, queer (or a combination!). I work with people on a wide variety of issues: I see couples who want to work on improving communication in their relationship; I see individuals who are struggling to identify what they want sexually; I see people who want a space to process their feelings more generally.
Hi, I'm Rachel. I am a psychosexual and relationship therapist. I work with people from all backgrounds and walks of life, although most often I work with clients who fall into the category of gender, sexuality or relationship diverse (GSRD), whether that means someone is kinky, polyamorous, a sex worker, queer (or a combination!). I work with people on a wide variety of issues: I see couples who want to work on improving communication in their relationship; I see individuals who are struggling to identify what they want sexually; I see people who want a space to process their feelings more generally.
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Wafaa Mf Eltantawy
Counsellor, MA, COSRT Accred
Verified Verified
London W1G
I am an expert in vaginismus (difficulty in penetration), dyspareunia (painful sex), and offer treatment of the following problems: Relationship and communication problems, erection difficulties, ejaculation concerns, orgasm problems, loss of sexual desire, sex anxiety, including non-consummation, sexual abuse trauma and domestic violence, sex addiction.
I am an accredited Psychosexual Therapist (sex therapist), Relationship Counsellor and Gynaecologist licensed by the GMC and am member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT), the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP), the International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM) and the Middle East Society of Sexual Medicine (MESSM). I am also a Sex Addicts therapist and have been leading the Psychosexual Clinic in the NHS trust for the past 15 years.
I am an expert in vaginismus (difficulty in penetration), dyspareunia (painful sex), and offer treatment of the following problems: Relationship and communication problems, erection difficulties, ejaculation concerns, orgasm problems, loss of sexual desire, sex anxiety, including non-consummation, sexual abuse trauma and domestic violence, sex addiction.
I am an accredited Psychosexual Therapist (sex therapist), Relationship Counsellor and Gynaecologist licensed by the GMC and am member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT), the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP), the International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM) and the Middle East Society of Sexual Medicine (MESSM). I am also a Sex Addicts therapist and have been leading the Psychosexual Clinic in the NHS trust for the past 15 years.
020 4538 7882 View 020 4538 7882
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Bjorn Ventris
Psychotherapist, COSRT General
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
London N16
Hello, my name is Bjorn Ventris and I am a relationship and sex therapist based in London. My pronouns are he/him. I work with couples and individuals from all backgrounds and orientations to help them improve their relationships and sex lives. Some issues I help clients with include: mismatched or low desire, improving communication, dealing with conflict, long term commitment, infidelity and rebuilding trust, improving intimacy, working to end relationships on good terms, consensual non-monogamy, step families, erectile dysfunction, rapid or retarded ejaculation, pain during sex, vaginismus & anorgasmia.
Hello, my name is Bjorn Ventris and I am a relationship and sex therapist based in London. My pronouns are he/him. I work with couples and individuals from all backgrounds and orientations to help them improve their relationships and sex lives. Some issues I help clients with include: mismatched or low desire, improving communication, dealing with conflict, long term commitment, infidelity and rebuilding trust, improving intimacy, working to end relationships on good terms, consensual non-monogamy, step families, erectile dysfunction, rapid or retarded ejaculation, pain during sex, vaginismus & anorgasmia.
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Photo of Marek Julian Mironski, Psychotherapist in London, England
Marek Julian Mironski
Psychotherapist, MA, COSRT Accred
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
London SE1  (Online Only)
Psychosexual therapy is a form of talking therapy that helps you to understand, manage and overcome any sex related difficulties you may have been experiencing. Those difficulties can arise through physical, psychological, emotional and situational aspects affecting our sexual wellbeing. I offer therapy to individuals and couples who might experience difficulties such as: •Erectile dysfunction •Rapid and delayed ejaculation •Painful sex •Sexual health issues (HIV; herpes or anxiety)•Issues relating to intimacy, sexuality and Chem Sex •Low libido •Inability to orgasm• Relationship issues •Compulsive sexual behaviours and more.
Psychosexual therapy is a form of talking therapy that helps you to understand, manage and overcome any sex related difficulties you may have been experiencing. Those difficulties can arise through physical, psychological, emotional and situational aspects affecting our sexual wellbeing. I offer therapy to individuals and couples who might experience difficulties such as: •Erectile dysfunction •Rapid and delayed ejaculation •Painful sex •Sexual health issues (HIV; herpes or anxiety)•Issues relating to intimacy, sexuality and Chem Sex •Low libido •Inability to orgasm• Relationship issues •Compulsive sexual behaviours and more.
020 3872 2506 View 020 3872 2506
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Anthony Frost
Psychotherapist, MSc, MBACP
Verified Verified
London SW15
I am a Psychosexual (Sex) and Relationship Therapist with additional training in Sex Addiction Counselling for compulsive sexual behaviour. I am a Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity affirming practitioner, offering a non-judgemental, supportive space where I encourage openness and honesty and embrace the diversity and uniqueness of my clients. I have an MSc in Psychosexual (Sex) Therapy, a Post Graduate Diploma in Relationship Counselling and an Advanced Diploma in Sex Addiction Counselling. My original training was as a Psychotherapist & CBT therapist and I have been been working in private practice and the NHS since 2012.
I am a Psychosexual (Sex) and Relationship Therapist with additional training in Sex Addiction Counselling for compulsive sexual behaviour. I am a Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity affirming practitioner, offering a non-judgemental, supportive space where I encourage openness and honesty and embrace the diversity and uniqueness of my clients. I have an MSc in Psychosexual (Sex) Therapy, a Post Graduate Diploma in Relationship Counselling and an Advanced Diploma in Sex Addiction Counselling. My original training was as a Psychotherapist & CBT therapist and I have been been working in private practice and the NHS since 2012.
020 3835 4641 View 020 3835 4641
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Lisa Home
Psychotherapist, MA, MUKCP
Verified Verified
London EC4Y
MODERN RELATIONSHIP & SEX THERAPY Connecting with people and being intimate can stir up all sorts of anxieties or compound exiting issues. Struggling with relational or sexual difficulties, or navigating the complexities of trying find our sexual place in the world and becoming comfortable with who we are can be challenging. As as psychodynamic psychosexual therapist my aim is to help you improve emotional and physical intimacy either in the relationship with yourself or your connections with others, and to help you overcome or manage any sexual difficulties you're having.
MODERN RELATIONSHIP & SEX THERAPY Connecting with people and being intimate can stir up all sorts of anxieties or compound exiting issues. Struggling with relational or sexual difficulties, or navigating the complexities of trying find our sexual place in the world and becoming comfortable with who we are can be challenging. As as psychodynamic psychosexual therapist my aim is to help you improve emotional and physical intimacy either in the relationship with yourself or your connections with others, and to help you overcome or manage any sexual difficulties you're having.
020 4538 1632 View 020 4538 1632
Photo of Simone Bienne, Counsellor in London, England
Simone Bienne
Counsellor, COSRT Accred
Verified Verified
London W4
Are you struggling to stop the kind of thinking and feeling that stops you from moving forward and having what you want in life, love and sex? Do you want to create happy, healthy relationships rooted in confidence and security? Do you want an exciting sex life you enjoy? For 20 years I’ve been in private practice and an expert on UK/US TV helping thousands of people just like you have whole-life success and happiness. You too can let go of the past, overcome limiting beliefs, reset thinking patterns, transform trauma, feel positive emotions, increase sexual enjoyment, and create a new version of yourself, one that you LOVE.
Are you struggling to stop the kind of thinking and feeling that stops you from moving forward and having what you want in life, love and sex? Do you want to create happy, healthy relationships rooted in confidence and security? Do you want an exciting sex life you enjoy? For 20 years I’ve been in private practice and an expert on UK/US TV helping thousands of people just like you have whole-life success and happiness. You too can let go of the past, overcome limiting beliefs, reset thinking patterns, transform trauma, feel positive emotions, increase sexual enjoyment, and create a new version of yourself, one that you LOVE.
020 4538 9870 View 020 4538 9870
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Olga Salodini
Psychotherapist
Verified Verified
London SW3  (Online Only)
I am a fully qualified Integrative Sex & Relationship therapist, Couples therapist, Marriage counsellor, providing therapy to individuals and couples. After completing a BSc (Hons) in Psychology, I trained at the London Diploma in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy, accredited by Middlesex University in London. With a postgraduate training in Advanced Diploma in Couples Therapy and Diploma in Compulsive Sexual Behaviour, I bring a depth of knowledge and expertise to my therapeutic work.
I am a fully qualified Integrative Sex & Relationship therapist, Couples therapist, Marriage counsellor, providing therapy to individuals and couples. After completing a BSc (Hons) in Psychology, I trained at the London Diploma in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy, accredited by Middlesex University in London. With a postgraduate training in Advanced Diploma in Couples Therapy and Diploma in Compulsive Sexual Behaviour, I bring a depth of knowledge and expertise to my therapeutic work.
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Photo of Kostana Banjac, Counsellor in London, England
Kostana Banjac
Counsellor
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
London NW1
My clinical work includes sex & relationship issues, unreliable erection, ejaculation difficulties, reducing anxiety around sex, intimacy, gender and body image issues, trauma, eating disorders, sexual abuse or assault, sexual health issues, compulsive sexual behaviours, vulval pain, vaginismus, dyspareunia, orgasmic issues, sexual phobias, traumas, PSSD.
I work pluralistically from a contemporary biopsychosocial framework that incorporates all aspects of self and I believe that you have many of the answers you are seeking within yourself. My objective is to build a safe and holding space for a trusting relationship where you can explore and share your thoughts, feelings, behaviours, and problems/difficulties. Clients often seek therapy because of symptoms affecting their everyday life. However, they are often unaware of the root cause of their self-sabotaging behaviours, relationship issues, and emotional numbness. I also provide a more focused work as a single-session therapy (SST)
My clinical work includes sex & relationship issues, unreliable erection, ejaculation difficulties, reducing anxiety around sex, intimacy, gender and body image issues, trauma, eating disorders, sexual abuse or assault, sexual health issues, compulsive sexual behaviours, vulval pain, vaginismus, dyspareunia, orgasmic issues, sexual phobias, traumas, PSSD.
I work pluralistically from a contemporary biopsychosocial framework that incorporates all aspects of self and I believe that you have many of the answers you are seeking within yourself. My objective is to build a safe and holding space for a trusting relationship where you can explore and share your thoughts, feelings, behaviours, and problems/difficulties. Clients often seek therapy because of symptoms affecting their everyday life. However, they are often unaware of the root cause of their self-sabotaging behaviours, relationship issues, and emotional numbness. I also provide a more focused work as a single-session therapy (SST)
020 3835 5391 View 020 3835 5391
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Poppy Mellor
Psychotherapist, MSc, MBACP
Verified Verified
London WC2H
I am a qualified sex and relationship therapist with over 15 years experience of working with individual and couples wanting to improve, repair or develop their relationships. This includes same sex relationships and clients from a range of cultural, religious and ethnic backgrounds.
I am a qualified sex and relationship therapist with over 15 years experience of working with individual and couples wanting to improve, repair or develop their relationships. This includes same sex relationships and clients from a range of cultural, religious and ethnic backgrounds.
020 3290 2875 View 020 3290 2875
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Dr Benedict Hoff
Psychotherapist, PhD, MBACP
Verified Verified
London W1G
I work with a range of issues including: anxiety, addiction, depression, chemsex, gender identity, gender dysphoria and transitioning, pain and chronic illness, psychosexual issues, forensics/sexual offending, sexuality and sexual identity, suicidality and self-harm.
I’m interested in what works. For you. So I take a pluralistic, integrative approach and don’t limit myself to one particular way of working. Whether you’re seeing me for counselling, schema-based therapy or psychosexual therapy, I'll tailor my approach to suit your needs. And it’s the relationship between you and I which will be central to the work. Because I’m not a friend, colleague or family member, you can think the unthinkable and speak the unspeakable in a judgement-free space. You can rely on me to be honest with you, and bring into your awareness your blind spots, and things on the edge of your awareness you might missing.
I work with a range of issues including: anxiety, addiction, depression, chemsex, gender identity, gender dysphoria and transitioning, pain and chronic illness, psychosexual issues, forensics/sexual offending, sexuality and sexual identity, suicidality and self-harm.
I’m interested in what works. For you. So I take a pluralistic, integrative approach and don’t limit myself to one particular way of working. Whether you’re seeing me for counselling, schema-based therapy or psychosexual therapy, I'll tailor my approach to suit your needs. And it’s the relationship between you and I which will be central to the work. Because I’m not a friend, colleague or family member, you can think the unthinkable and speak the unspeakable in a judgement-free space. You can rely on me to be honest with you, and bring into your awareness your blind spots, and things on the edge of your awareness you might missing.
01748 902515 View 01748 902515
Photo of Lotte van Kouwen, Psychotherapist in London, England
Lotte van Kouwen
Psychotherapist, MA, HCPC-Art Therap.
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
London SE15
I offer Psycho Sexual and Relationship therapy, EMDR and Art Psychotherapy for individuals and couples. Psycho Sexual Therapy is a type of talking therapy that is designed to help individuals and couples address medical, psychological, personal, and/or interpersonal factors impacting on sexual satisfaction. In this therapy we explore sexual issues and the impact these may have on your life and relationships either individually or with your partner. I will support you in exploring your sexuality and help you to develop a more conscious sexual self-esteem and enjoyment of your sexuality.
I offer Psycho Sexual and Relationship therapy, EMDR and Art Psychotherapy for individuals and couples. Psycho Sexual Therapy is a type of talking therapy that is designed to help individuals and couples address medical, psychological, personal, and/or interpersonal factors impacting on sexual satisfaction. In this therapy we explore sexual issues and the impact these may have on your life and relationships either individually or with your partner. I will support you in exploring your sexuality and help you to develop a more conscious sexual self-esteem and enjoyment of your sexuality.
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Gillian Beckwith
Psychotherapist, MA, COSRT Accred
Verified Verified
London W4  (Online Only)
It can include arousal and desire, orgasm (rapid, delayed, not achieving), erectile sufficiency, pain on penetrative sex, non-consummation, sexual identity, change from the impact of illness, disability, ageing, fertility challenges.
Fully qualified and highly experienced with all sexual and relational dilemmas, and especially when matters are usually fuelled by anxiety/depression which can come with a sense of loneliness or isolation. I happily work with all kinds of couples or individuals on their relationships and also general personal dilemmas, for example, grief, loss, anxiety, depression and I have done so for a long time. Using a clinical supervisor, I maintain regular sessions about my (anonymised) client work to ensure consistently effective therapy. I have industry-standard insurance.
It can include arousal and desire, orgasm (rapid, delayed, not achieving), erectile sufficiency, pain on penetrative sex, non-consummation, sexual identity, change from the impact of illness, disability, ageing, fertility challenges.
Fully qualified and highly experienced with all sexual and relational dilemmas, and especially when matters are usually fuelled by anxiety/depression which can come with a sense of loneliness or isolation. I happily work with all kinds of couples or individuals on their relationships and also general personal dilemmas, for example, grief, loss, anxiety, depression and I have done so for a long time. Using a clinical supervisor, I maintain regular sessions about my (anonymised) client work to ensure consistently effective therapy. I have industry-standard insurance.
01748 902286 View 01748 902286
Photo of Lina Helena Milner, Psychotherapist in London, England
Lina Helena Milner
Psychotherapist, MA, MBACP
Verified Verified
London W1W
My specialism is relationship and sex therapy for couples and individuals. Every relationship has a challenge, but if you feel that the problem has persisted for too long and caused a lot of distress for you, do contact me and we can have a conversation about the type of counselling that will suit your needs. I also work with individuals who and trying get over break up or have difficulties in forming or ending relationships. I offer an empathetic, safe, and professional environment within which we can work together to facilitate the potential for change in the relationship and work towards sexual health, happiness and well-being.
My specialism is relationship and sex therapy for couples and individuals. Every relationship has a challenge, but if you feel that the problem has persisted for too long and caused a lot of distress for you, do contact me and we can have a conversation about the type of counselling that will suit your needs. I also work with individuals who and trying get over break up or have difficulties in forming or ending relationships. I offer an empathetic, safe, and professional environment within which we can work together to facilitate the potential for change in the relationship and work towards sexual health, happiness and well-being.
07723 456237 View 07723 456237

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Who is sex therapy for?

Sex problems are common in relationships. Many people want a better sex life and want to feel loved and desired by their partner. It is difficult for couples to resolve sexual problems on their own because people often feel ashamed to talk about their sexual desires fearing they are not normal, when in fact a very broad range of preferences and behaviors are normal. A sex therapist can help clarify this and other matters.

Why do people need sex therapy?

Many people do not know how to talk about their erotic needs or their emotional needs, both of which are addressed in sex therapy. Couples often live with sexual difficulties for years before seeking help, and in that time, partners may experience so much disappointment and alienation that they may fear their problems mean they are incompatible. Once people experience disappointment, it is difficult to find resolution without help.

What happens in sex therapy?

People have many misconceptions about what takes place in sex therapy. First, it is a form of talk therapy in which partners discuss their sexual concerns; it does not involve touching or physical exploration of any kind. Sex therapy typically helps couples get comfortable talking to each other about sex so that, in the privacy of their home life, they can openly discuss their sexual desires and make decisions about what they want to do. Couples are typically assigned activities to do at home that build intimacy skills.

What kinds of problems do sex therapists treat?

Very often, partners differ in their degree of sexual desire and struggle over how often to have sex. Or they may have fights about porn use or have difficulty connecting sexually after one partner is unfaithful. Men may have problems with premature ejaculation. Women may find themselves struggling to become aroused or to achieve an orgasm. Sometimes partners feel like they have lost the sense of attraction to their partner. These are all common issues dealt with in sex therapy.