Relational Counselling in Canewdon

Being an adult is tough and filled with challenges. When we focus on the future we miss our present and our past informs our future. This can actually keep us stuck and the fear grows. The critical self lives in the past and the inner child/anxiety lives in the future. By creating an internal compassionate self enables us to use the knowledge of ourselves to our advantage, allowing us to move forward. The aim is to empower you to make grounded decisions, reducing anxiety, and enabling you to live fully, in the present, whilst accepting yourself and your story. It is difficult but we will explore this at your pace and together.

As a Counsellor, I primarily work in a relational/integrative way drawing on interventions underpinned by psychodynamic and Humanistic theories including mindfulness. I offer individual counselling to adults and young people from the age of 16. As a Psychosexual Therapist I work with individual adults and couples presenting with a range of psychosexual difficulties. These include but not limited to loss of desire, vaginismus, painful sex, erectile and ejaculation difficulties, aging, menopause and orgasm difficulties. I am a Professional Associate of COSRT (4296 ) - working towards Registration.

If you think you may need counselling or psychotherapy, you are not alone. At times we are all faced with confusing or painful situations, feelings of dissatisfaction, anxiety, stress or depression, painful losses, traumatic or unhappy memories, difficult decisions or the need for change. My way of working is relational, conveying warmth, empathy and compassion for my clients, so I will not analyse you, judge you or try to impose my values and beliefs on you but I will offer you my full attention and respect your individuality. In essence, my aim is to encourage you to trust, accept and value yourself, strengthening self-esteem.

As an Integrative Counsellor and registered member of the BACP, I have extensive experience working with adult clients across a range of areas, including depression, anxiety and relationship issues. I work with trauma-informed, humanistic, cognitive behavioural and psychodynamic approaches to therapy and will tailor my work to best meet your needs as the client, offering both short, mid and long term therapy in person and online. I offer all of my clients complete acceptance and understanding, creating the safety and trust needed within the therapeutic relationship to elicit psychological healing and growth.

Do you feel you are struggling? has life thrown up things you hadn’t expected? Life can be difficult and challenging. It may be that you have had a bereavement, you may be suffering from anxiety or even having panic attacks. Do you find it difficult to switch off your mind at night and have trouble sleeping or are you having issues in your relationships or work. If you feel you want to unpick your thoughts and change the way you are thinking, then counselling could help you. Having counselling may seem daunting, but you have made the first step in looking at this web site.

Life throws up things that we don’t expect, testing our resilience and ability to overcome situations that are often not of our own making. Talking can be key in understanding your predicament and help you move forward. That old saying "a problem shared is a problem halved" really is true. Talking about a problem makes it seem less daunting or troubling. As a counsellor I can offer you that safe, secure place to talk and help you find the right way for you.

Everyone experiences challenges and difficulties at various times in their life and it can be comforting to know that we don’t have to get through it on our own. Sometimes we just need someone impartial and compassionate to just listen to us confidentially and not judge us; to help us express and let go of our feelings and thoughts in a safe space. Other times we need help to make sense of past events or to manage difficult emotions. And then we need to move forwards… so having someone to support us who we already trust, can be really useful to make lasting changes.

Are you feeling anxious, depressed and helpless? Putting on a brave face, I want I help you to change. I will facilitate and support you in a safe, confidential, and compassionate environment; whatever you decide to bring to counselling it will be at your pace. I aim to build a working relationship with you, enabling you to feel comfortable to explore and understand your experiences, thoughts, emotions, and how they can be connected to events in the past or the present. Through this exploration, we can work towards positive change. It may be that you're uncertain of what needs to change or where to begin and that’s okay too.

Are you struggling with aspects of your life? You may have already tried to talk about it with friends and family but you still feel unresolved. You might have issues that you feel you can only talk about in a safe and confidential space. There may be times when you feel absolutely fine but there are times when you can't cope from within and you don't understand it. We push difficult issues deep into our unconscious but it still influences our conscious lives. Are there significant events from your childhood that you can't find peace with in your present day? This can leave you feeling despair like you have no control.

Sometimes we all need additional support to navigate difficult times and making a decision to seek help for our personal problems can be daunting. I believe in creating a safe space to work together, where you are the expert in your own experiences and I have the experience and expertise in psychological theories and techniques. I believe that by bringing together this expertise we can work together to enable you to achieve your unique personal goals. Some of the relationship problems I work with include communication issues, affairs and betrayals, family issues, parenting issues, separation and divorce.

After many years of my own struggles and trying to navigate the emotional turmoil of my chaotic life I made the decision to start therapy. This journey allowed me to unravel the complex emotions that kept me a prisoner in my own head for many years. Therapy set me free and allowed me to explore and understand the trauma of my childhood and the damaged inner child living inside of me as an adult. I was able to let go of my past and live a more fulfilling life. As I healed I decided to become a therapist and help people just like you. If you feel stuck and want to move forward please get in touch.

Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed by the stresses in life? Feel unable to make decisions? Do you condemn yourself for making the 'wrong' decision? We can be good at condemning ourselves and be our worst critic. Discovering what patterns are happening for us over and over again, and preparing yourself for these, knowing what you can and can't do, can feel empowering. Being able to express yourself knowing that you can be heard without fear, embarrassment or shame but with acceptance of you as a person can be life changing. I can help you look at making changes and find bespoke ways to support and establish a way forward for you.

Welcome to KJL Counselling. I am a Registered Counsellor, providing advice, support and signposting for issues relating to Mental Health and Child & Family Practice. I have over twenty years of experience working with adults, families and young people experiencing challenges regarding their mental health and emotional wellbeing, specialising in working with Individuals, women and young adults (17yrs +). My approach focuses on integrated styles of working which means I can provide therapy that is tailored to meet each individual’s needs.

Sexual problem can happen to anyone at any time across cultures, ethnicities, genders, sexual orientations, ages, and social/marital status. it can make us feel very alone. Some people feel so fearful, self-conscious or ashamed of their sexual problem that they suffer for months or even years without discussing their worries with anyone, even their partner. And yet sexual difficulties are very common and can have many causes including psychological or physical or both.

Working with couples and individuals. I appreciate the connection between physical health and psychological well being. I work with a variety of issues including anxiety disorders and trauma especially relating to relationship issues and sexual assault/abuse, sex problems and sex addiction. OCD and hoarding as well as panic disorders are also areas of interest. I have extensive experience of discussing sensitive and intimate topics with people, including issues relating to sexual identity and sexual assault/abuse.

I am a chartered clinical psychologist with 15 years experience in mental health. Whilst working in the NHS, I have set up The Sycamore Private Practice so that people outside of mental health services can access support. I have worked with people, who have benefited from making sense of difficult or/and frightening experiences, improving their mood or lowering anxiety. If you would like a safe place in order to understand more about what is going on for you, or perhaps have specific areas that need a focus, we can do this together and at a pace that suits you. I have listed my areas of expertise and experience as a guide for you.

I am a BACP registered Integrative Counsellor/Psychotherapist & Clinical Supervisor and a member of the BPS. I am trained in Person-Centred Counselling, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Psychodynamics. I specialise in Relationship and Family Counselling, Dementia and mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, work-related stress and breakdowns. I also have vast experience of bereavement counselling. I have many years experience (9+) of working with Carers/family members who care for their loved ones who are living with Dementia. When caring for a loved one, our own emotions and feelings can sometimes be forgotten.

If you have got this far you probably have an inkling that to talk about what is troubling you might help. Why not give it a try? Perhaps you are wondering how it works. The short answer is we work together to make connections between your past experience and your present life. It is as we become more aware of these connections that change can flourish. Why not take a step of faith and see where "talking about it" gets you?

I am a BACP and EMDR Counsellor offering face to face, online and telephone counselling. My clients say that I'm very easy to talk to, warm and friendly. I can help you to explore your issues to help you gain awareness, understanding and get to a place or acceptance of a situation you are struggling with. I am also a qualified NLP and EFT coach offering specific techniques suited to working with any issues related to trauma, depression & anxiety.