Gottman Method Counselling in Christchurch

Relationship Counsellor and Anxiety Therapist, BACP Accredited Psychotherapist, based in Hythe near Southampton, Hampshire. I'm Tom Buckland and I've been helping people through difficult times since 2003 and specialise in providing Couple Counselling (once know as marriage guidance counselling or relationship counselling) as well as working with Anxiety and Trauma. I work in a humanistic approach so we can work out together the best approach in the therapy to help you.

Email or WhatsApp for an appointment +447543800297 lisa(at)thinkingfeelingmoving.com I work remotely. I offer an initial 30 min free chat. I am a Clinical Sexologist, Relationship Therapist, Counsellor, Yoga Therapist, Yoga Teacher and Educator.

Are you feeling depressed, anxious, stressed or struggling with everyday life? Perhaps you are experiencing feelings you can't quite identify? Are you looking for help with various life challenging issues/situations? Have you got to the point where you can't go on alone and need someone else to help you? Whatever you are facing, you no longer have to do this alone, I am here to provide you with relevant support and address your needs. As an integrative counsellor I am using a compilation of therapeutic methods tailored to the individual's needs and goals providing an environment for enablement and empowerment of their achievement.

I have extensive lifelong experience of supporting those suffering with poor mental health, including the most severe conditions. I have worked successfully with people of all ages, including adolescents, homemakers, C-Suite executives and those receiving end-of-life care. I also work with couples using The Gottman Method.

Since 2009, I've been committed to supporting clients in their healing journey by offering talking therapy and conducting over 4000 successful EMDR sessions. Specialised training with Esther Perel enriches my marriage counselling approach, exploring issues like freedom versus security, struggles with intimacy and connection, emotional shutdowns, conflicts over finances and recurring arguments. In therapy, we start by understanding your story's narrative. We unravel underlying beliefs like "I'm not good enough," "It's my fault," and "I'm unsafe." Together, we collaborate to establish secure attachment and facilitate repair.

1 in 6 have experienced sexual abuse in their childhood, it's a topic that many people feel uncomfortable talking about yet the aftermath of the abuse can have long-lasting effects. It impacts your income, personal relationships & health. You may be experiencing feelings of isolation, self-doubt, or even suffer physically e.g.fibromyalgia. This can happen several years after being abused or remembering it. What if I told you there is a way to come to terms with your past and thrive in the present? Healing Hands Counselling is a psychotherapeutic service which, specialises in this area.

The same arguments with your partner over the same stuff. Frustration and resentment because they do not accept what is important to you ,but ignore it and behave the same way. The atmosphere after an argument continues until you make it right .So stress is a regular feature of your life that affects health , sleep,emotional wellbeing ,sex and work,. Your worries and concerns are about the future. Dependents are also impacted by arguments and strained stmosphere. Your partner's absence is a relief. You think of separation, Can this relationship change to meet my needs and my dependenrs' needs? What's the future for us?

Do you believe you are doing the best you can but unfortunately often end up experiencing repetitive cycles of hurt and misunderstanding? When couples enter my counselling room, they are often filled with pain and despair. They look to me, to address their conflicts, help them recover from distress and repair their relationships.

Should I talk to someone about this? If you have found yourself on this page, it is likely that you have had this thought. Perhaps you have experienced a distressing event or betrayal or have lost the passion in your relationship. Perhaps you are looking for help as a couple or as an individual. Whatever the reason you are seeking help, reaching out is always a brave step. It is helpful to know what to expect.

My clients often feel painfully stuck in some way and that's why they come to me. Problems become overwhelming. For instance, being unhappy in a marriage; having a serious illness and dealing with its effects; feeling low and not understanding why; dealing with divorce; having problems with one's children and not being sure how to manage; wanting to move forward in life but just not managing somehow; work issues - struggles with colleagues, dissatisfaction with a career. Anxiety, depression and confusion usually accompany these challenging life situations.

Hello, I'm psychotherapist with over 10 years of extensive training, invaluable skills, knowledge, & experience which has enabled me to work effectively with different ages, races & genders on different concerns. This includes helping you to get to the deep root of what is causing your anxiety, depression, identity issues, guilt, fear, shame, stress, trauma, PTSD, complex PTSD, inter-generational trauma, abuse, low self esteem & understand unhealthy negative beliefs about yourself, others, life and find a way to move beyond the thoughts & feelings of powerlessness and hopelessness to finding meaning, purpose & appropriate solutions.

I approach therapy with a compassionate, authentic, non-judgemental stance. I am experienced in working with a broad range of clinical presentations including anxiety (e.g. generalised anxiety, social anxiety, health anxiety, OCD) and depression as well as supporting people through difficult life circumstances (e.g. divorce, bereavement). I have specialist knowledge working with people experiencing psychological distress within the context of physical health difficulties and have an ongoing interest in work-related stress and burnout.

I can help you with issues that are difficult to talk about, including anxiety, depression, low self esteem, bereavement, trauma, sexual abuse, autism and ADHD. Some issues are more difficult to define. They can be more like: ‘Life feels really difficult’, ‘I wish I felt happier’, ‘I’ve been feeling really low’ or ‘I feel like I’m going mad’. I am genuinely interested to understand more about you and your unique experience. No problem is too trivial or too shocking. I will listen to what you want to achieve through counselling and support you to live your best life, whatever that may mean for you.

Do you worry about tomorrow? Modern life can feel overwhelming and the way forward uncertain. You might feel anxious all the time, burnt-out or struggle to sleep, as your mind races in circles. Perhaps you are recovering from past or accumulative trauma? All the while, your relationships with loved ones, colleagues and even yourself is suffering. Counselling offers you the opportunity to understand and relieve your symptoms and also improve self-esteem. I understand that having therapy can also feel uncomfortable or even self-indulgent.

Life...Relationships...Work.... I partner with individuals and couples who want a place to reflect and make sense of their current difficulties so that they can get back on track. I offer a friendly, down to earth, research backed approach both online and face to face. I can provide counselling, psychotherapy and coaching, or a combination as determined by your unique needs. I start from the perspective that people make sense i.e. their behaviour and what they are experiencing have meaning that can be understood in the context of their history and their current life context.

You can call us +44 7761 931518 for appointments or reach us through our website www.psikologlondra.com. Turkish-English speaking psychologists and psychiatrist in the UK on the same platform! Our 30+ psychologists and therapists are skilled and experienced in their fields. Let us find the "Right Psychologist" for you!

Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you... (Jean-Paul Sartre) I believe therapy not only offers a space for processing confused, difficult or painful feelings but also aids self-discovery and development. I offer a safe space for my clients where they may explore things they have never talked about before. My priority is to provide a confidential, empathic and accepting atmosphere in which my client is free to question, reflect upon and express their true and unique self. I do this by developing a therapeutic connection with my client so that I accompany them on their journey side by side.